(Closed) will you be my…

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 4
3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

I knew who my three girls were. My sis and my two bffs. One is my mother’s-bff’s daughter, aka my 2nd generation best friend. The other I have known for 15 years and intoduced me to my Fiance. At one point in our lives or another I had promised them ALL the Maid/Matron of Honor title. But my sister won out. I unoffically asked them before we were engaged if they would be in the party. and after we were officially engaged I mentioned my sister would be Maid/Matron of Honor.

ETA: As for how I asked them….Since I already knew for Years who the 3 would be, they all knew from the get go. I asked them individually when I was offically engaged. It was kinda like “I know we have been talking about this forever, but will you OFFICALLY be my Bridesmaid?” They were all super excited and respected my decision to make my sister Maid/Matron of Honor

Post # 6
3339 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

I had always told one of my friends that she would be my Maid/Matron of Honor when I got married.  So, when I got engaged, I asked her.  It wasn’t anything particularly special, but just the fact that I finally got to formally ask her instead of always talking about it hypothetically is what made it special.  The other two girls…I honestly can’t remember if it was in person or over the phone.  We don’t live near each other, so it might have been over the phone for at least one of them.

Post # 7
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@AndysCraftsNmore:  I did it in person.  I made each girl a little giftbag that had a special card in there and then I made each of them tank tops that were bedazzled with either Bridesmaid, Maid of Honor, or Junior Bridesmaid.

Post # 8
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@AndysCraftsNmore:  no texting, that is plainly rude!!! you can call but i think yu should ask in person. they will be there for you, they have to spend money for you, so give them some respect 🙂

i made a personalized card for each of my BMs. I plan to give them once I meat every one of them. After i do that i am sure my Future Mother-In-Law will be furious to find out I did not choose the girl she wanted me to ask. Oh well she is not a family and I met her 4 times so why ask somebody like that (just because Future Mother-In-Law has a better relationship with her than with me). I cant wait actually for this, because the thought of having to say what I want and that is completely appropriate I choose BMs myself, and Future Mother-In-Law will just act childlish and try to convince me what is apprpriate in her closed mind. Ohh vent again

Post # 10
1502 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@AndysCraftsNmore:  I had a friend ask me to be her bridesmaid via text…  surprise surprise, she’s been a huge bridezilla during her whole planning process.

I’m sending each of my girls a box, with a mini bottle of champagne that has a custom label that says “One last question to pop!” and a locket necklace, where I’m putting a note asking them inside.  Then also in the box will go a card, some paint chips of possible wedding colors, and a little postcard saying when and where we’re getting married.

Post # 11
11657 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

My sisters were assumed, I realized about a month later i hadn’t actually ASKED them so I made a point of doing so when I saw them.  Bridesmaid or Best Man J I asked over skype because I won’t actually see her in person until the wedding.  Bridesmaid or Best Man M and I went out for lunch when I was in our hometown a few weeks ago and I asked her in person. 


Post # 12
46 posts
  • Wedding: July 2017

My girls didn’t all know each other well, and I was trying to tie them in together while 7 of us reside in 4 different states.  I decided to tie it into a theme’d invite/request with each included girl’s picture and I wrote them each vows.  It went over really well!

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