Post # 1
Hello my darling Bees!
So my lovely Fiance proposed this past Valentine’s Day (woop!), and we’re having the wedding in June 2011. When’s the best time to ask the ladies in question to be a BM? Just curious, wanted to know what you lovelies thought.
Love love love!
Post # 3
I asked mine ASAP because I was SOOOOO excited, naturally! My wedding was 13 months away from the time that I asked. I have seen other posts where bees recommend that you wait a bit closer to the year mark, but I don’t know. I think once you announce your engagement to your close friends, many of them will start wondering who is in the bridal party and who isn’t. Go ahead and ask if you know who they will be!
Post # 4
I pretty much did mine right away, BUT it is best to wait a few months into it or however long you feel comfortable with to make sure the girls who are in your life now will still be just as much apart of your life then. A lot has changed in my life from a year 1/2 ago to now, & 2 of my BM’s got the boot. I would wait as long as you can, even as long as Thanksgiving/Christmas of this year to be sure. But, ask whenever you feel comfortable 🙂
Post # 5
I would ask right away : )
Post # 6
I would wait a year before the wedding date.
Post # 7
I would wait. Things change, you go through short phases. It worked out for me, but there was a time I was regretting my choices (I asked with like 17months to go).
Post # 8
It depends on if you are certain you will still be in good standing with all your girls. It’s unfortunate, but sometimes things dont work out and you may lose a Bridesmaid or Best Man. I would as when you are certain on your selection. 🙂 Good luck and CONGRATS!!!
Post # 9
I got engaged Dec of 08 and really wanted to take my time and think about it before any asking was done. I’M GLAD I DID.
I started out wanting 6 (friends from college, work, my sister, etc). Then I changed my mind and i “knew” i wanted a smaller bridal party.. just my sister and best friend since 5th grade. (Making the “final” decision to not ask my FI’S sister.)
I thought about it more and decided I really did want my Future Sister-In-Law, shes my family now! So, one year later i asked the 3 girls with cards I made at our engagement dinner. I also decided to ask my friend from college. But I’m sending a card to her because she lives in CA (couldn’t come to our dinner.)
After all is said and done I have 4 BMs and thats my final answer. I’m glad i waited because changing my mind a bunch of times would have meant asking and unasking a few times. 😀
I’d say give yourself some time to really think about who you want apart of your day and let the initial ” i want all of my best buds / friends / coworkers / sort-of friends with me that day ” excitement wear down. ha!
Post # 10
Definitely wait awhile. Sometimes weird things happen when you get engaged and your friends who you thought were your BFF suddenly act weird or sketchy. Plus, I think it’s natural to be so excited that sometimes you make decisions about your wedding (“I want 10 bridesmaids! 10! All of my bestest friends!”) and then you find out later that it’s not going to work with the wedding you’re having (ala Miss Rainbow).
Post # 11
I’m in the other camp but I think it definitely depends on how confident you are that the girls you want will still be the girls you want by the time your wedding gets here. I waited a few months to ask, but looking back I wish I had asked them right away. It would have been nice to have it be part of the initial excitement instead of waiting.
Post # 12
My engagement will be 17 months long and “technically” I didn’t ask yet, though 3 out of 4 of them knew right away that they would be involved.
I plan on sending them a little something in the next couple of weeks to make it official.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I asked early, but I definitely see the point of people who say to wait. 😉
Post # 14
Ive already asked mine and I am a June 2011 bride as well!
Post # 15
I asked mine pretty early… (I’m getting married in 2011 as well) but I guess it was a given. The decision I did take time to make was if I was going to ask anyone else other than my original 4 (my sis, and my 3 best friends I’ve known since age 5). But after much thought, I decided to stick with the originals and not add anyone else (I wanted to add a coworker, and 2 friends from college).
When dates/locale are more concrete (haha yes haven’t done that yet), I still want to do something special for my bridesmaids.
Post # 16
I asked mine pretty early. But you have over a year, so I think that you can wait a while.