(Closed) "Will you be my bridesmaid?" Info

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would put the same information you would put on a save the date. (Wedding location, date, website.)

I ended up calling my bridesmaids to ask them and after they accepted I emailed them a big packet. In the email I included everyone’s name, phone number and email address (so they can gossip more easily 😉 ). My packet included:

  • Dress requirements (they get to choose) including color, fabric, length, designer and that it must be worn with the sash (which I purchased and mailed to them so they can try it on with dresses if they want)
  • Where to buy their dresses (I found an online site that is much cheaper than in stores and wanted them to be aware of that). The website I gave them requires you to email for a quote so I actually got quotes for each of the dress options so that they wouldn’t have to.
  • What sort of shoes they should wear. (I checked to make sure they all own black shoes after I asked them, but put it in the packet so they can refer to it later.) I figured if they want to go dress shopping with them in mind then that way they could. I also wrote that accessories, hair and makeup are up to them.
  • Important dates: Wedding, Rehearsal Dinner, Enagement Party (if you plan on having one), and if you’re going dress shopping and want your bridesmaids there you can add that as well (I wrote that I would not be dress shopping with them for my dress or their dresses [out of state bridesmaids] so that they would plan accordingly)

Obviously my packet is overkill. I just like writing things out. I also wanted them to be aware of the cost of the dresses way in advance so that if it was an issue we would have time to figure it out. I waited until after they accepted to send them all int information though because I didn’t want to overwhelm them. The most important thing is that they be there the day of. If anything was an issue we would have talked it out. Fortunately all of the girls like most of the dress options and we relieved by most of the information in the packet (don’t have to budget for hair, makeup, shoes, don’t have to set aside time for dress shopping excursions ect.) You should include everyone’s contact info, but you probably don’t want to give it out before everyone agrees to be a bridesmaid just in case someone can’t.

Post # 5
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4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@creativeone710:  Why not send them a cute box with the bare minimum info (wedding date and location). They should be able to accept/decline based on that info assuming you keep everything else reasonable. Most people know off the bat if they are busy on your wedding date or if they can’t attend a destination wedding. They shouldn’t need more information to make the decision, unless you plan on having an expensive bachelorette, bridesmaid dresses ect. You can include a note saying “details to follow in introductory email pending your acceptance” or something like that.

Then after everyone says yes you can send an email introduction with the packet of info attached. That way you can give everyone each others contact info and know that they have all accepted before you unload lots of information on them. And they will have had a little time to be excited about being a bridesmaid before having to worry about the details.

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