Post # 91
My SO’s last name is Sippy. Since he was young, people have always brought up the fact that his mother was (or that his future spouse would be), wait for it…
Mrs. Sippy. Say that out loud.
Ha ha I don’t mind it. It’s kind of cute. 🙂
I see nothing wrong w/going w/either person’s name. Maybe one is a hideous last name that the person isn’t particularly proud of… I’ve actually heard of people having a game of chance @ the wedding where their last name is decided through drawing from a hat, etc. Alas, I will be taking his name. I like my last name, but I’m not very close to my biological father’s part of the family & feel no need to carry the name on.
Post # 92
I’m actually really excited to take his last name. As much as I love my maiden name, it started with an ‘R’, while FI’s starts with a ‘B’. I can’t help but see it as a step up, after years and years in an education system which insisted on doing *everything* in alphabetical order, lol!
However, I think that changing one’s last name can certainly become much more difficult with time. We’re both still in University so neither of us have really built up a career or reputation. I can see it being so difficult to let go of an identity you’ve forged over years with clients, suppliers, collegues, etc. based on your maiden name. I think that the idea of splitting it socially/professionally makes a lot of sense. Thankfully I have no ‘career’ yet, so that’s a non-issue 😉
That said, I have been giving a lot of thought to which name I should put on my degree(s)… I might put my maiden name on my undergrad degree, and my FI’s name on my professional degree. Have any bees faced issues in this domain? What did you do?
Post # 93
Taking FI’s last name, no doubt. My family is my family, that’s not going to change regardless of what I call myself. But having FI’s last name makes our union easier, IMO. It’s just more convenient to be able to categorize us as “Mr and Mrs ________” or “The _________’s” And I don’t like the idea of hyphenating. I don’t like the way it sounds unless the woman is joining two monosyllabic surnames. Fiance has a 4-syllable last name and my first and last name has 5 syllables so it would just be too much breath to introduce myself like that lol.
Post # 94
In my humble opinion, your friend is being silly! Marriage means creating one, unified family. What is the big deal about taking your husband’s last name? I mean…you are MARRIED after all! Lol but to each his/her own. I, personally, am thrilled to take my SO’s last name some day! I will still maintain my family “identity” by adding my maiden name to my middle name, however 🙂
Post # 95
Yes I’ll be taking his last name, and I’m so excited to do so! It feels more like a family to me, and I’m a bit of a traditionalist 🙂
Post # 96
Gosh no. I’ll try to keep my opinions to a minimum so as not to cause a ruccus but there’s no way I’m changing my name (feminist reasons). FH offered to take mine and I liked that for a while but then I realized, I love calling him Hisfirst Hislast. So now I’m not letting him.
On the off chance we have children, they will take my last name. They are coming out of my body, and I will most likely be the primary caregiver. I think it’s only fair.
Post # 97
I am and we just got our marriage license in the mail so now I can start the process. If anyone has any tips for helping walk me through this? I know first I should do social security, then DMV, and then everything else?
Post # 98
Yes. I will be taking his last name It’s just something I’ve always wanted to do. I will make my maiden name my middle name, and take his last name. I do run my business as “my name photography” so that will remain the same.
Post # 100
I think my fiance would have a hard time marrying me if i refused to take his last name. Its veryyy important to him. I want to take his name tho so im happy about it.
Post # 101
Taking his name. Should be fun b/c if you shorten our names we are both Kris (with a K for both). Should be fun. Luckily only his family calls him by that and most others call him by his full name. My brother refers to us at “The Kris Lastnames).
Post # 102
Haha same here… I moved up from an L name to an A name! Woo hoo 🙂 Also… I’m going to school to become a teacher and his last name starts with Apple (and then has a typical last name suffix on it)… which I just think is a cute teacher name 🙂
I’m very traditonal… I’ve always dreamed of taking my FH’s last name… My mom did… In fact, IRL I don’t know anyone who didn’t! My mom doesn’t have a middle name and even still she didn’t take her maiden name as her middle name…
Personally – I want to show my DH that I’m in this for the long haul, don’t want to do anything that would make it seem like I’m not committed… and we are “The __________s” 🙂 I feel like it’s a small step that brings unity and commitment to the relationship… 🙂 I like it!