(Closed) Will you circumcise?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Are you planning to (did you) circumcise?
    My husband is circumcised and we WILL be circumsizing any sons. : (93 votes)
    59 %
    My husband is circumcised and we will NOT be cirumcising any sons. : (18 votes)
    11 %
    My husband is NOT circumcised and we WILL be circumsizing any sons. : (6 votes)
    4 %
    My husband is NOT circumcised and we will NOT be circumsizing any sons. : (26 votes)
    17 %
    Undecided. : (14 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    636 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    My husband is circumcised and I am letting him lead the way with the decision.  I guess it is a little old fashioned, and we agree that it isn’t necessary, but he has that old feeling that a boy should look like his dad to make things ‘easier’ I guess. I know it is getting more and more common to not circumcise but I think my husband feels like a boy might stand out or be made fun of if he wasn’t and most of the other boys were. 

    Post # 4
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    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2008

    Yep, like father like son!

    Plus I am Jewish, so it was a pretty sure thing.

    I actually told my husband that not everyone is doing it anymore (when he was born most were) and he was pretty surprised to hear that.  I have read up on it and now actually understand both sides better, but still personally prefer it from an aesthetic and sanitary POV, in addition to religious.

    The only thing I don’t appreciate is comparing it to female genital mutiliation which is a traumatic, horrible thing – haven’t met a man yet who thinks his circumcision was traumatic or wishes he wasn’t! 

    Post # 5
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    593 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    My husband is very against circumcision (even though he is) and I’m on the fence. My main concern is that the kid would be just be asking for the surgery later on in life. To which Darling Husband says “that’s fine. It would be his choice, then.” But obviously it’s more of a procedure once you’re older. Anyway, I know it’s kinda silly to assume something like that and have that be my sole reason for it. Blah. I don’t know. I know it’s not necessary and there aren’t actually any medical benefits but still. Fence.

    Good thing we won’t have to deal with this final decision for a few years *knocks on wood*

    Post # 6
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    5496 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2010

    My hubby isn’t and if we have a boy, he won’t be either.

    Post # 7
    Member
    988 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We were watching a show about circumcision and Fiance goes “I am glad I am not circimcised” hahaha he IS circumcised, I guess he just never knew LOL. Anyway after I explained to him the difference between a circumcised one and an uncircumcised one(yeh I had to explain it!) he was very grossed out and right away said that he would want his son to be circumcised…so yeah.

    Post # 8
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    277 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    He isn’t, and we won’t.

    Post # 9
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    58 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    My husband and I just talked about this the other day.  I’m on the fence, but he is very pro-circumcising.  He’d adamant that it’s a hygeine issue even though so much research shows that it’s not as big a deal now than previously thought. 

    In the end I think he is more for it than I am against it, so we’ll probably go ahead. 

    @Janna19 – The female mutilation stuff is totally what gets to me, though I’d argue that the procedure for boys doesn’t seem to hinder any of the men I know in the same way that the female version ruins the life experience of women. 

    Good topic @jilian!  It will be interesting to see where everyone stands on this one.

    Post # 10
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    814 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    i wanted to have our sons remain uncircumcised, no harm, no foul.. but my step son is already cut, so we will be doing our boys to match… also my husband had some issued with his forskin(tmi) reattatching when he was an adult and was very painful for him.. so we are going new school on our future sons

    Post # 11
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    2829 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My spouse is circumcised and wanted our son to be as well, so they would ‘be the same.’ I also thought that I wanted my son circumcised. However, there were several contributing factors to consider. Here are some that we discussed.

    1) regional/religious reasons; we are not Jewish, so there is no religious pressure for this to be done (yes, I realize that other cultures circumcise, just giving an example). Also, we do not live in the desert, so daily cleanliness (read: sand under the foreskin), is not a huge concern, unless we have been to the beach.

    2)Cost; it may vary by region, but in the hospital we were given a loose quote of 600-900$, not including any medications that may have been needed.

    3)Health/cleanliness; while uncircumcised males have to be slightly more diligent with their personal hygiene, I really do not see a problem with that (encouraging hygiene etc). Whereas, dealing with a newborn with an OPEN WOUND in a commonly unclean area (seriously, ever changed a newborns diaper? SOUP POO. That is all I am going to say) sounded a little too much like asking for a secondary infection.

    Also, our ped. pointed out that there is no MEDICAL reason to circumcise unless the foreskin is not retracting properly by a certain age or causing discomfort.

    Now, while our son has had a few minor bacterial infections of his foreskin, it has not been so awful that we throw up our hand and go ‘K time to chop the foreskin!’ (Though it was really heart breaking at the time).

    4)Morality; even though while I was pregnant I was so sure we would circumcise, after holding/meeting my son, I just could.not.do.it. I couldn’t bare the idea that I would be the one making a decision to put him in pain (yes, yes, they are too young to remember, but it still hurts them).

    5)This may be irrelevant to anyone else, but the on call Doc. at the time was the same doc that butchered my older brother (seriously, nearly cut the whole thing off, not just the foreskin), so I was NOT cool with my son being anywhere near that particular doctor.

     

    Ask your doctor for some medical information regarding circumcision, there’s a lot of it and it may be helpful.

    There are also 2 methods of doing it, one is a ‘cut’ (scalpel) and one is a ‘restriction’ method (they put a clamp/plastic device on the skin very very tightly and the blood circulation is cut off, eventually the skin dies and it falls off–not sure how popular/wide spread this method is, but it was given as an option to us at the time).

    Post # 12
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    5148 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    If/when we have a baby, I really don’t want to circumcise him. My sister chose not to circumcise my nephew, so at least she would be supportive of my decision.

    My fiance is circumcised, and he’s said he thinks it’s weird not to do it. I grew up in the Midwest (aka: the Bible Belt), so pretty much all the men out here are circumcised. I’ve honestly never seen an uncircumcised penis in-person, only in pictures.

    Post # 13
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    593 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    @tinybride: I agree it’s nowhere near the same in the way that it is performed and how it affects the quality of life. The only thing someone arguing that point has going for them is that the most sensitive part is removed in both sexes (and choice is removed).

    Post # 14
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    593 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    @missmouse29: Regarding #3 THANK YOU! I hate that “well it’s not as easy to keep clean” is a reason to be for it. Um, how about you just teach proper hygeine to your children? Maybe I’m not as much on the fence as I thought.

    Post # 15
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    5148 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    To echo missmouse29‘s post, I just looked up circumcision on the website of the hospital where I work. They say “The [medical] risks and benefits are both too small to swing the vote either way. This is a parental decision, not a medical decision.”.

    http://www.childrensmercy.org/pa/view.aspx?id=191

    Post # 16
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Yes, and yes! Darling Husband looked at me like i was crazy when i asked him. I’d let him have final call on that, though. We both feel like some issues are men’s issues and some are women’s issues.

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