My spouse is circumcised and wanted our son to be as well, so they would ‘be the same.’ I also thought that I wanted my son circumcised. However, there were several contributing factors to consider. Here are some that we discussed.
1) regional/religious reasons; we are not Jewish, so there is no religious pressure for this to be done (yes, I realize that other cultures circumcise, just giving an example). Also, we do not live in the desert, so daily cleanliness (read: sand under the foreskin), is not a huge concern, unless we have been to the beach.
2)Cost; it may vary by region, but in the hospital we were given a loose quote of 600-900$, not including any medications that may have been needed.
3)Health/cleanliness; while uncircumcised males have to be slightly more diligent with their personal hygiene, I really do not see a problem with that (encouraging hygiene etc). Whereas, dealing with a newborn with an OPEN WOUND in a commonly unclean area (seriously, ever changed a newborns diaper? SOUP POO. That is all I am going to say) sounded a little too much like asking for a secondary infection.
Also, our ped. pointed out that there is no MEDICAL reason to circumcise unless the foreskin is not retracting properly by a certain age or causing discomfort.
Now, while our son has had a few minor bacterial infections of his foreskin, it has not been so awful that we throw up our hand and go ‘K time to chop the foreskin!’ (Though it was really heart breaking at the time).
4)Morality; even though while I was pregnant I was so sure we would circumcise, after holding/meeting my son, I just could.not.do.it. I couldn’t bare the idea that I would be the one making a decision to put him in pain (yes, yes, they are too young to remember, but it still hurts them).
5)This may be irrelevant to anyone else, but the on call Doc. at the time was the same doc that butchered my older brother (seriously, nearly cut the whole thing off, not just the foreskin), so I was NOT cool with my son being anywhere near that particular doctor.
Ask your doctor for some medical information regarding circumcision, there’s a lot of it and it may be helpful.
There are also 2 methods of doing it, one is a ‘cut’ (scalpel) and one is a ‘restriction’ method (they put a clamp/plastic device on the skin very very tightly and the blood circulation is cut off, eventually the skin dies and it falls off–not sure how popular/wide spread this method is, but it was given as an option to us at the time).