Post # 17
@Jess1483: I will stay in my house alone, and I have already. The first time was kind of freaky, as I had never had the experience of living by myself (I went straight from living with my parents to living with FH). He was only gone for 2 nights but it was weird being in the house alone. And it was also kind of boring.
We don’t have any pets that roam the house freely (we have fish), so I jumped at every random sound, lol.
The second time, he was gone for almost a month! It wasn’t as bad though.
Post # 18
@musical-lady: A month–yikes! I lived alone in two different apartments, but never a house. I figure in an apartment, SOMEONE will hear me scream, haha.
@Hyperventilate: 🙁 Thanks to your husband. Darling Husband was in the army before we met–there was some question early in our relationship of him going back in (he was medically discharged, but they could have decided to take him back), and I decided pretty quickly that there was no way I could handle being a miltary wife.
@kyra.astell: When my apartment was broken into in Chicago, I wanted to go stay in a hotel for the night (after the police left). My roommate wanted to stay. She convinced me to stay, but I stayed in the living room and made her stay awake (we had really opposite schedules, so it wasn’t too crazy). I don’t think I’d feel better in the living room here, though–there are more windows. I think if I really had to stay alone, I’d probably camp out in my son’s room.
@Ms_Purple: Yikes! Sleeping together definitely took some getting used to for me too 😉
Post # 19
@Jess1483: I understand. I come from a large family, and I don’t really remember ever being left alone when I was living with them. When I first lived with my boyfriend and he would be away, I got so nervous from every little noise. Even though we’ve always had two dogs, I still felt just a touch nervous by being alone.
I seem to have gotten better with age though, as I’ve lived with now husband for 3 years 🙂
Post # 20
I hate being alone at night. During the day is okay. But I live near a scary part of town and Darling Husband used to work nights, so I’d be all alone with Dear Daughter and the dog. Any time the dog suddenly got alert and looked out the window and started growling, I’d practially have a heart attack thinking someone was prowling around out there. I was so happy when Darling Husband bid on and got a day shift. I feel so much better now that he’s home at night.
Post # 21
I do it cause I have to. Sometimes its nice to get a couple of hours of solo time in the house, but its too quiet when I’m here by myself. I get bored easily and have no one to talk to besides the dog. I much prefer to have someone else here with me. I would never want to live alone. I think if I did live by myself I’d spend most of my free time at my parents or friends.
Post # 22
@Jess1483: He had immigration issues to sort out. Luckily they let him come back
Post # 23
I can, but I don’t like to if that makes sense. Not so much from a security standpoint (though we do have one more for when we’re both not home), but it just feels more homey with both of us here.
Since they do have a good variety of wireless alarm systems, you might want to look into something like SimpliSafe or a similar product if you think it would give you piece of mind. I think those are ones you can actually take with you when you move, actually I’m pretty sure the builders here used wireless ones too so except for the ones that are drilled into the door (instead of surface mounted), most of the sensors could go with us if we moved.
Post # 24
I think being alone in a house is something that can be awkward at first, but you get used to it once it becomes familiar.
I remember my first “single girl” apartment. It was maybe 750 square feet, not exactly big. And it was right on the ocean in a beachside town — neighbors everywhere. But I was terrified the first few nights there. Eventually I got used to it and it was no biggie.
Later my sister and I owned a two-story home, and she was gone on business a lot so I would be by myself in that big house at night. It never bothered me, but then we had two dogs so I had some company. Dogs hear everything at night, so I didn’t worry about anyone breaking in.
After that, we lived in a big, rambling 80-year-old house that backed up to a park that was pitch black at night. Again, I stayed there alone many times. After we moved out I discovered that one of the many windows on the ground floor actually had a broken lock and could have easily been opened from the outside by an intruder. For years, I slept alone in that house many nights, unaware that there was basically an open window. What made it even weirder was that around the time we moved out, we discovered that someone had been prowling in the backyard on several occasions in the middle of the night. We would wake up in the morning and find that the gate had been left open, etc. Yikes… thank goodness they never tried that unlocked window!
Post # 25
@Hyperventilate: mine will be deployed soon also. I actually enjoy being alone….
Post # 26
@Jess1483: I would have never been able to walk away because of his career, not after we both realized how right we were and how perfect it was.
I endure because I love him. He’s gone three weeks out of every month, I get him a week a month if I’m lucky, much less if I’m not. Sometimes I only see him for a few days until he deploys again.
I’m not a fan of being alone, but I don’t have a choice about it.
@gelaine22: Best wishes to you & your SO.
Post # 27
@Hyperventilate: I should have clarified. We had even dating a whopping two weeks at that point. If he were somehow called up now (or ern a few months into our relationship) I certainly would still be with him.
Post # 28
I am fine staying alone in either, but I do like to check out any noises I hear, and check the windows often. I prefer to have pets around, so we can look out the windows together, but I am ok alone. I don’t blame you for wanting company, it can be scary at times.
Post # 29
i don’t mind being alone in our house. at night it gets a little lonely, but i don’t get scared. i live on a military base and i feel pretty safe here. but if we lived off base, i don’t think i’d like it. i’d definitely want a watch dog to protect me and keep me company.
Post # 30
I don’t like it, but I find it more difficult if my husband is hanging out with friends and doesn’t know what time he’ll be home. Then I want to wait up for him, and panic at each small noise that isn’t him!
I have a dog, and even though loud noises cause her to hide underneath me, she still brings me some comfort when I’m home by myself.
Post # 31
I was ok in my secire apartment but now I hate hate hate staying by myself. I get no sleep because I feel really vulnerable! I don’t think you’re crazy 🙂