- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
I have to vehemently disagree about race. It is not merely cultural. It’s also about where you were raised and who raised you. For example, my fiance is black. He was raised by white people. He has no “cultural” attitudes or traits. but then again, many black people I know do not. It’s just something society put on us, much like society puts it on gender.
Being black and female, I can say they are similar. It’s not easy when people try to “make you be black” when you just want to be a human that happens to be black. Another example I can cite is being black, versus African or African American. Being black but being European. Being black but being mixed with several other races as a result of migration, slavery, etc. We are shaped by our social environment and we do not want to be shoved into some cultural stigma.
I don’t believe the traits you mention about women are all inclusive to every woman and there are many women who have these so-called male traits. And they very much identify as women. women act differently from “culture” to “culture.” Some cultures have aggressive women and some men back down and avoid conflict at all costs. In some “cultures,” women are hunters. I just think society could better serve itself by ending all the categorizing.
Nothing is stopping a man from getting breasts if he wants. People will judge, just the same as with skin bleaching. I just cited that with the woman who tried to pass for black. She got judged very harshly, but she was just trying “pass,” something transgenders say, stereotypically, is important to them.
Of course regret can happen to anyone, but transgenders need to be aware of it before they do it because you can’t get certain things back. From my understanding, there are factions within the community that shun you if you bring up any doubts, which isn’t right. I think they need to educate each other and help make sure the person is making the right choice to help minimize the regret.
Some transgenders want to have babies. Why? because they think that’s what makes them a woman. But I’m a woman and I haven’t had a baby. And women who cannot conceive are still women. So why are there now uterus transplants? I think it’s because it is something they think will validate their womanhood. I’m a woman if I have no breast at all. So why are fake breasts needed to be a trans woman? Some men are Eunichs, but even without the organ, they are men. When your bones are dug up in hundreds of years, DNA will tell the future humans what you were.
I don’t know about any transgenders throughout history and what their specific circumstances might or might not be. I can’t speak on that topic without proper research and perspective. I don’t even know what the etymology of the term is. If other terms were used in the past, do they truly represent what we know the term to be today? I mean, people said Pluto was a planet — until they decided it wasn’t, so…
With all that said, Transgenders should be free to be what they need to be, just like any other human. Thanks for the talk, but I’ll probably have nothing further to add.