Will you tell your child that they can choose their gender?

• Soon2BMrsFredericks
• 10 months ago

Hell to the NO! Vagina female, Penis male. Simple. Call me small minded idc. 

• LilliV
• 10 months ago

Soon2BMrsFredericks :  but what if you have a child with a penis that says they feel their body is wrong and they want to cut it off? I think there is a big difference between assuming your child will identify with their child at birth (totally normal) and refusing to support them if they tell you otherwise. 

• pearl311
• 10 months ago

yaara :  perfect, short, and sweet response 

• sallyloves90
• 10 months ago

Personally, I think this whole thing is getting a little out of hand. If my daughter is born female (for example), I will dress her as female until she tells me otherwise. But there’s no chance in hell I am going to say to my kid “what gender do you choose?!” Because A). The notion that a child would be capable of making that ‘decision’ is ridiculous and B). Gender is not a choice.

• EllyAnne
• 10 months ago

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sallyloves90 :  Gender is a choice, sex isn’t for the majority. When you say you will dress her as a female what exactly does that mean? I’m not trying to be difficult but would you dress her in blue or red for example? 

In the case of my acquaintance that I wrote about a few pages back, her child who was born with male sex organs is 7 now and they wear beige, white or grey for the most part. The mum is still choosing the clothing. I have seen them wear a pink hair band but never any colour that is stereotypically masculine. I’m not close enough to the mother to ask that if they wanted to wear, as an example, blue jeans and a football or rugby top, she would encourage it. I’ve always believed that younger children would want to wear vivid colours but maybe that’s just another assumption.

• Soon2BMrsFredericks
• 10 months ago

LilliV :  I honestly don’t know what I would do or say if my son told me that. I don’t think I would take it seriously until they were in their teen years, idk. Good question. I would love them either way though…..but from the getgo, I still say penis male, vagina female. Lol. 

• querty
• 10 months ago

honeybee1999 :  I’ve not read the whole thread (only on page 3) and although you continually say how trans people should have options and the right to be who they are, you are writing huge amounts of paragraphs that have the tone of ‘this is why it’s not right’. Just thought I would say it was interesting to read so many pro and con’s on a subject.

• elderbee
• 10 months ago

rockclimberbride :  

This My children will understand their physical sex is an important distinction .

Sex – usually,  but of course not always,  is straightforwardly/chromosomally  XX or  XY with corresponding  body parts , hormones and organs.

Gender is the behaviours and attitudes consonant with those sexes and is strongly influenced  by social norms. Thus boys can easily exhibit what are considered feminine behaviours and girls the same with masculine behaviours . And get rewarded or punished for doing so .

So, to a degree they can choose those behaviours,  though  this is not what  the original  question is about I suspect. 

• konablend
• 10 months ago

No. I plan to raise them as a boy or a girl. And if they wanna play with opposite sex toys… go for it. I don’t plan to give them a choice… to therefore confuse them. 

You are either a boy or a girl… that should have no association with their sexuality down the road. If youre my son and you wanna dress and act like a girl… whatever… if they are confused and think they should be the opposite.. then I will cross that road when it gets here. But I don’t want to give them the opportunity to change it on purpose if that makes sense?