(Closed) Will you use gifts before the wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Will you use gifts before the wedding?
    Yes : (15 votes)
    47 %
    No : (12 votes)
    38 %
    Unsure : (5 votes)
    16 %
    Other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    18643 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    We waited until after the wedding but that was because most of the things we registered for aren’t things that we use all the time anyway (like wine glasses).

    Post # 4
    Member
    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    The only gift we’ve received so far is a set of crystal glasses, and we used those babies the same night we got them 🙂 I”ve also heard the rule not to use stuff til after the wedding, but I guess I”ll take my chances!

    Post # 5
    Member
    4385 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Hmmm. I hadn’t even considered this until you mentioned it. You make a good point though, if you don’t end up getting married, you really shouldn’t keep the gifts. Therefore, using them before the wedding seems like a bad idea!

    Post # 6
    Member
    1207 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I used our gifts.  I know about the rule that if your engagement gets called off you should return the gifts, but it didn’t even cross my mind.  I was just like, “Cool, we got the waffle iron.”  Haha, I guess I’m glad that things didn’t get called off!  Honestly, I think if you are concerned that the engagement might get called off and that’s why you won’t be using your gifts…. well, I think you know what you need to do.  I do know that a couple of my friends didn’t use their gifts because they were moving and were waiting until the got into the new house.  That makes sense, I think, but we had moved before we started getting gifts, so it was just bonus for us.

    Post # 7
    Hostess
    18643 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    This makes me think about couples who get married and divorced quickly.  Why do they get to keep the gifts just for being married for a few months or a year but other people have to give the gifts back because they called off the engagement?  Doesn’t seem fair.

    Post # 8
    Member
    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    We’re using our wedding gifts as we get them… there is no risk of our wedding being called off. 😉 But so far almost all of the gifts we’ve received are the pretty ones, rather than the useful ones, so by default we’re putting them away for now and not using them (but not by design!).

    Post # 9
    Member
    4385 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I don’t know that anyone *thinks* their engagement might get called off… it’s kind of rude to say that if you think that you shouldn’t use your gifts before the wedding because something bad might happen, then you should just call off your engagement now!

    Post # 10
    Member
    4385 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    @MissAsB – That’s a good point too! That really doesn’t seem fair! 🙂

    Post # 12
    Member
    2476 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We’ve already received a couple of gifts off our registry, and we’ve used them both!  There is no way we’re calling off this wedding and I’ve broken enough rules of wedding “etiquette”, so one more won’t hurt.  Tongue out

    Post # 13
    Member
    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Well I’ve had to call off an engagement before and luckily I had only received one gift and that was some wine charms that had a wedding cake, ring etc on them and came from my close friend.  I gave them back to her and told her to give them to me the next time around!

    No plans for us to call off this wedding only 60days to go!  But I feel weird opening a gift now that I just received in the mail.  See my other post

    Post # 14
    Member
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    we’re opening and using everything! i figure if god for bid something horrible happens, i won’t give a damn and we’ll just pay people for their gifts. we were using my fi’s old, crappy things from college, why would i use them if we have brand new things? and now, we only have 18 more days to get through. i think we’ll be ok.

    Post # 15
    Member
    1207 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    @jaylii9 – I’m sorry.  I didn’t mean to imply that you thought that.  I guess I was just trying to say that if your reasoning behind not using the gifts was because of that you may be in trouble, and I was definitely not categorizing it as you personally, but as a more general, anybody-out-there-who-was-thinking-that you.  Also, I guess I didn’t take into account any supersitions, because I’m not really a superstitious person.  So I am really sorry my comment came out the wrong way.  That is def not what I had in mind!  And I do understand that things happen, and nobody “thinks” their engagement will be called off, I guess I really just wasn’t thinking at all when I posted that!  Lol.  So sorry girls if my post offended anyone.  That was def not my intention at all!

    Post # 16
    Member
    2027 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We used ours, but I now suggest everyone wait.

    A very close friend of mine was in a wonderful 4 year relationship, got engaged, and planned a seriously amazing wedding. They were an awesome couple and no one suspected anything, especially the bride. Well, he didn’t show up to the wedding. No explanation, just said he couldn’t do it. Besides being heartbroken, she now had to deal with the presents from about 500 guests plus those from 2 showers. Not something you really want to be worrying about in a time like that. Luckily she had only opened a few gifts, so it was fairly easy for her family to gather everything up and return items. But it really would have sucked if I had been in the same predicament, seeing as I wouldn’t have been able to return anything!

    No one thinks anything is going to happen, but I think it would probably just be safer to wait!

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