(Closed) Will you work FT/PT or be a SAHM?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
  • poll: What is your plan?
    Work Full Time : (106 votes)
    47 %
    Work Part Time (or thereabouts) : (28 votes)
    13 %
    Work from HOME PT or FT : (10 votes)
    4 %
    Be a stay at home mom : (59 votes)
    26 %
    Haven't Decided : (21 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 47
    Member
    734 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2007

    @Treejewel19:  I’m going to be working full time. I love working and wouldn’t want to give that up.

    Post # 48
    Member
    891 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’ll take 3 months off, then go back to work full time. Darling Husband and I could afford for me to stay home, but I actually really enjoy my job and don’t have a desire to be a Stay-At-Home Mom. I might go back part time, depending on what my current employer will allow me to do.

    Post # 49
    Member
    2190 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I will still work FT. Granted, I work in surgery, so my FT is not the typical 8-5. 

    Post # 50
    Member
    9811 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would work FT after maternity leave unless Darling Husband made a considerable amount of money (probably $200k+ a year).

    I wouldn’t mind being a Stay-At-Home Mom for a year but I’d definitely want to work after that.

    I do like my job and I like advancing and I don’t think I’d want to give it up.  I also have great benefits I’d hate to give up!  Which is why I wouldn’t do it unless he was making a LOT of money.

    Post # 51
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    552 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    i would LOVE to be a Stay-At-Home Mom. it’s my dream job, haha. fingers crossed it can happen! once they get older i’ll get a part-time job or go back full time. we will work on saving until then and see how it is. 

    Post # 52
    Member
    4431 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My husband primarily works from home, so he will be a Stay-At-Home Dad who is also able to bring our future LO to work as it is a very small office.

    I will be working full-time and I have flexible hours within the 6am-5-pm range if I needed to.

    Post # 53
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    3378 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    If it works out financially, I’ll be a Stay-At-Home Mom until our kids are in kindergarten.  More likely, though, I’ll work PT from home in order to bring in some supplemental income and make payments toward my student loans (I teach at the university level, and will be looking to take on online teaching positions as an adjunct).

    Post # 54
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    756 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m going to be a Stay-At-Home Mom until my youngest goes to school. Then I will probably work PT to give myself something to do. I am a nurse, so it’s easy to find jobs with flexible hours. Darling Husband makes way more money that I do, so it would work the best for our family this way.

    Post # 55
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    1877 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @Treejewel19:  I think about this all the time!  I LOVE my career and feel blessed to live such a nice lifestyle, so the thought of making the transition to the life of a Stay-At-Home Mom frightens me. I worked so hard for so long to get where I am and God has blessed me so much… the thought of walking away from my work seems crazy at times.  

    Still, it is likely that I will do just that.  My fiancé works for an MLB team and travels quite a bit, so I will be parenting alone quite often when we have children.   He would strongly prefer that I be a Stay-At-Home Mom, so that I m not too overloaded or stressed. Honestly, I don’t see how I could take care of a baby alone with him out of town, take care of daily living activities like cooking and laundry, continue the hobbies I love like my workouts, and still give my job my best.  I love being excellent at my work, and would not be able to stand being anything but the best at what I do.  I don’t see how I could continue to be my best with a new baby.  While some women can, many slip at work after becoming moms. They give work a half-effort and motherhood a half- effort, and nobody gets mom’s best.  

    The idea of being a mediocre professional, or mediocre mom, scares me more than giving up my job does. Given that, for at least a few years, I will stay home.  I will almost definitely want to go back to working a bit once my children start school though, if not sooner, on a limited basis. I love my work, so I think I will miss it!

    Post # 56
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    727 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @MrsBeck:  +1

    I’m undecided, but ideally I’d like to work reduced hours every day, like 9-3 or something. I could not be a stay at home mom, I think I may go slightly crazy.  And that would be after mat leave, which I’ve discussed with Darling Husband.  I would like to take the first 6 months, and he can take the second 6 months.

    Post # 57
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    1542 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Fulltime. But my job right now allows me to work from home once in a while as needed for days when the kid is sick or something. But I have zero desire to be a full time Stay-At-Home Mom. Even just a few weeks being home all day makes me go stir crazy.

    Post # 58
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    1531 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    My Darling Husband and I will both work full time.  Luckily he goes in early and gets out early, and I go in later so it will work out.  My parents have been offering to watch our future kids before we were even engaged!

    Post # 59
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    1311 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’d love to be a Stay-At-Home Mom or even work full time, but it’s probably not going to happen.  I’m the kind of person who really lacks a sense of security – especially financial security, because of the way I grew up – so I would never feel comfortable enough to stay at home with the kids, as much as I’d like to.  We probably could manage on SO’s salary but I’d rather not.

    Also, SO has said under no uncertain terms that he wants his wife to work full time because he needs the peace of mind, in case anything happens to him.  So…unless we happen to come across an enormous windfall/trust fund/whatever, which is highly unlikely, I’ll be working full time after my year long mat leave.  SO’s trying to negotiate with me to share part of my mat leave with him and I’m not too keen, but we’ll see! 😛

    Post # 60
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    1664 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I will take a year maternity leave  (That’s what we get here in Canada) so since the baby will be born at the end of may, I will return to work may 2015 as a full time grade 2 teacher. We will be searching out child care since we will both work full time.

     

    Post # 61
    Member
    1649 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2000

    My husband makes enough to support us both but I do like having and making my own money.  I’ve always been very independant, and the thought of having to rely completely on someone else financially is a scary thing. 

    I have been taking steps just in case I end up being a Stay-At-Home Mom like making sure I have no credit card debt and paying off my student loans just in case. I do know that just being at home for more than 3 days gives me anxiety so maybe I could do something part time.  I think it’s going to be one of those things where I’ll figure it out as I go.

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