(Closed) Will you write your own vows?

posted 10 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Will you write your own vows?
    Yup! : (16 votes)
    28 %
    No, there are vows already established due to our religion. : (17 votes)
    30 %
    No, our officiant will do this for us. : (8 votes)
    14 %
    Some of them will be personal, others traditional. : (16 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 3
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    We’re having an interfaith ceremony..I’m Catholic, he’s Jewish. His best friend is officiating and we have to write the entire ceremony ourselves..including the vows!

     I think we’ll keep our vows a secret. And I have no idea yet what resources I’ll be using!

    Post # 5
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    225 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    We are having a friend ordained to marry us, so we are going to write our own vows. I’m actually afraid – for him! I’m afraid that his vows won’t be as meaningful or thoughtful – he’s a man of little words.

    I’ve also heard of one wedding where the groom’s vow was very traditional, and the bride’s vow pretty much said the opposite of what the groom said, (i.e. I will not say til death due us part because… )

    So, we are having his best man (our friend) proofread everything for us so that everything comes up daisies and no one person’s vow will overshine or undershine the other! 

    Post # 6
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    226 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    We’re writing our own based on inspirations found online (we’re going with secular/ethical  humanism), along with some quotes from our favorite books. 

    Oh, we’re gonna write them separately but based on the same duration so it’s too odd. we’ll then compare notes about a month before the big day! 

    good luck!

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Yes we are writing our own vows and we are sharing the writing process together. I bought a few books from Border’s to assist in the process – in retrospect, it would be much easier and more cost effective just to rent them from the library. But there are several great resources out there. Some even include ideas for both religious and non-religious readings for the ceremony if you were planning to incorporate those

    Post # 9
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    18 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    I have no idea if we would be allowed to write our own vows, but the Catholic Church has different options for us to choose from, and to be honest I am wayyy to scared to write my own, also we are a fairly traditional couple and like the idea of saying the same words that many others have said before us.

    Post # 10
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    103 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    My fiance is a traditonalist so we’re not writing our own vows. I think there’s something to be said for timeless vows that have been repeated by strong marriages for years. We will have a major role in planning our ceremony, but our vows will be traditional for a Christian wedding.

    Post # 11
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    156 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2009 - Beach Social Hall

    We are writing receiting the traditional vows, but are going to take a moment to say something special to one other.

    Post # 12
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    167 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2008

    We had my uncle marry us, so I ended up writing our entire ceremony. It was awesome!

    Post # 13
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    538 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Saying Catholic vows is really important to the both of us. We are sticking with tradition.

    Post # 14
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    35 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    We agreed that we would not write our own vows. 

    Post # 15
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    93 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    We’re creating our whole ceremony, but it will take inspiration from tradition, and will follow a traditional flow.  We are creating most of our own vows.  The start of our vows to each other will be a surprise to each of us, though my best friend is officiating and will make sure that the tone is similar between them.  Then, we will have a small set of shared vows that will include our shared values and expectations for our future relationship.  And, the vows will end with tradition.  And, somehow I want to consolidate this all so it isn’t too long.

    We are just starting in the process, but the internet has been moderately helpful and I’ve checked out all the books I could find from the library for inspiration.

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