(Closed) Will you/did you have a surprise shower?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Is/was your shower a surprise?
    Yes : (2 votes)
    10 %
    No : (13 votes)
    65 %
    Yes but I wish it wasn't : (3 votes)
    15 %
    No but I wish it was : (2 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    1715 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Our shower isnt a suprise as I have to fly to get there. I would suggest giving your mom the dress an shoes in a convinient bag for her to bring and once youve said your first hellos you can go to the washroom and get changed. I like that parts of my shower atleast are being kept secret but I know 50 people are being invited and its at a event space I know quite well.

    Post # 4
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

    Mine’s not a surprise because like @naturalysam: I have to travel to get there. Sometimes the brides will know the date but not any other details… Would you be okay with that? I know a few years ago I had a surprise birthday party… I wish I had at least known the date because I wasn’t prepared at all and looked like a scrub! 😉

    Post # 5
    425 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My bridesmaids want mine to be a complete surprise but I am kind of leaning towards at least knowing the date. I also agree that I want to know ahead of time so I can be ready and look nice for it. 

    One of my friends had a complete surprise shower and she did have her outfit there and went and changed. It did seem to work for her but if you are getting anxious I might talk to your girls because you dont need any extra stress. 

    Post # 7
    2195 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Mine was not a surprise. There were a few surprises when I got there, though!

    Post # 8
    4150 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I definitely think this is a regional thing. I’m from the South and had never heard of or seen a surprise shower. Then I moved to NJ, and that’s all I’ve seen. My FI’s family is from NY, and every woman has had a surprise shower, as have all of the friends I’ve met here. I don’t really like the idea of it. I’d like to look nice and I also have a special dress to wear to my shower. My friend was on her way to get her eyebrows waxed in no bra and no makeup when she was surprised with hers – needless to say, she wasn’t too happy with how she looked. Plus, where I’m from, the bride usually gives the hostess a little thank you gift, which is impossible if it’s a surprise. I’m pretty sure I’ll be having a surprise one since that’s how they do things up here. My sister is throwing me a traditional, non-surprise shower back home.  

    Post # 9
    2104 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Mine was sort of a surprise.  The original work shower date didn’t happen because of my father’s funeral…I was told that presents would just be given to me as part of the end-of-school-year luncheon, very low-key.  When I arrived, it was a full-blown shower!

    Post # 11
    756 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I told everyone I knew that I did NOT want a surprise shower. Like PPs, I had to travel to get there, but I also am not a spontaneous person, and I don’t handle surprises or large crowds well. Guess what it was? A surprise.

    It was a very awkward experience for me. I didn’t really know how to react. I tried so hard to smile and make the best of the day, but all I wanted to do was burst into tears.

    I know that I’m lucky to have so many people who wanted to do something nice for me, but it felt very strange that the people who are supposed to know me best in the world would do something that was the complete opposite of what I told them I wanted. Almost a year later, I still get angry when I think about it.

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