(Closed) Will your husband witness the delivery?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

He better as heck be at my side! If he want’s to look that’s up to him… but otherwise, I’m glad we’re going to one day give birth to a child when fathers are allowed to be present! 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

Yeah, I’m game for him being there.  He’ll be up near my head though during the pushing unless I don’t care and I probably won’t by that point.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think it is great that he wants to be there!  I would absolutely want my Fiance to be there when we have children.  I think the miracle of birth is exciting and scary and overwhelming and so many other things…but I don’t think that even if he does see the birth in action so to speak (read: watching the baby come out), that he will lose his sex appeal for you.  Birth is a wonderful (and painful, I imagine!) event and I would want nothing more than to share that experience with my man!

Edit:  By share the experience, I mean preferably by my head as well.  So he is there for support, but perhaps not the full view…unless I am past the point of caring or else too preoccupied to notice that he has peeked.  Hopefully we can keep it PG for all expect the doctors!

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I just asked Darling Husband that and he shook his head vehemently…over and over….side to side…..

I think it’s a no =]

He can stay at the head. I’d like medical professionals down there, only. Shoot, we have separate bathrooms, so yeah.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m with beekiss2. I definitely want him to be right next to me and the only one right next to me (all family will need to be in the waiting room). The thought of anyone I see in my daily life (including my husband) actually seeing the detailed process go down is totally not appealing to me, but who knows if at the actual moment it is happening if I’ll care. I’m doubting if I’ll care about anything besides getting the baby out lol

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree with ejs and egb, by the head only, no touching or looking ‘down there’.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

PS. I’m pretty sure that Darling Husband would have zero interest in looking anywhere down there during that time, so I’m not really worried about it.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

He will definitely be there to hold my hand and stuff, but he doesn’t need to see that end of it. 🙂

I’m actually in the process of filling out the forms to pre-register at the hospital, and one of them is the “birth plan” or whatever. So one question is, “Do you want a mirror?” (i.e. so YOU can see it?) I think I’m going to write “HELL NO!” beside it.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Husband will absolutely see the delivery! I’m not ashamed for him to see me like that at all.

Post # 12
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Busy bee

Only Elvis had those kind of weird connection in his brain that once a woman gives birth she is only a mother and not a sexual partner  Most men can’t wait the typical six weeks after their wife gives birth before wanting to jump their bones. 

Don’t over think this.  You will make yourself crazy!

By the way, they have mirrors in the delivery room so you can watch too!Smile

After you have a baby, all sense of decorum is gone.  When the time comes, you will not care who is in the room or who is watching closely. 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh man, if anyone suggested to me that he NOT be in the room, I’d be furious. I’m really counting on him for that moral support. But I’m with the “by the head” girls. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I definitely want hubs to be in the room with me when I give birth, but we are both in agreement that he will be at my head only.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

I never once questioned whether I wanted Darling Husband to witness our daughter’s birth.  We both agreed from day one that he’d be there and watch whatever he felt comfortable watching.  In the end, he witnessed the entire birth and cut the cord.  He cried and got really emotional and never once has he ever expressed any dissatisfaction with our sexual relationship as a result of having seen my nether regions in a whole new light. 

Heck, I SWORE I had an “accident” on the table and messed myself while I was pushing but everyone in the room says no, I didn’t.  There was no “clean up” so I know they’re not fibbing to me.  Childbirth isn’t glamorous but it’s still the most beautiful thing in the world, IMO.  I wouldn’t want my husband to miss out on that. 

And, here’s the kicker…he’s usually squeamish but HE ran over to the table that had the bowl with the placenta in it and photgraphed it.  Yeah, a bit extreme…but to this day, everyone is interested in that darn photo.  Oye!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Of course he is going to be there. I agree with the previous poster about whatever my husband sees will not be a deterant to him seeing me as his sexy wife. My Fiance has seen me with the worst flu I ever had and then proposed to me. He loves me no matter what. I also would like my family and friends to be there if they wanted. I am an RN so I have no qualms about people seeing me deliver. No pregnancy yet, but hopefully soon

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