(Closed) Will your parents/SO's parent's pick their grandparent name?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 61
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I think Lovey is what Kris Jenner’s grandkids call her lol. I’m embarrassed I know that.

I agree with PP that the kids end up picking it anyway. Most of my cousins called my maternal grandparents mama xx and Papa yy but my siblings and I werent around them as much so we didn’t feel comfortable calling them that I guess, so we stuck with grandma and grandpa.  

Post # 62
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I also was going to ask if your Mother-In-Law watches the Kardashian’s – haha (I’m also embarassed I know the kids call Kris Jenner lovey).

I also agree generally that it’s up to the grandparents to pick what they’d like to be called… that being said, I also agree that ultimately the child is going to call them what they’re going to call them…based off of what they can pronounce, and often those nick names will stick.  I know my Aunt wanted to be called Grandma, and the first grandchild couldn’t say it so she said ‘Nan instead, and now they all call her ‘Nan.  I will say that I think Lovey is kind of weird.  Then there’s preople like my own mom who can’t decide what she wants to be called, and if she doesn’t hurry up and stick with something she won’t have a choice because it’ll be whatever my niece decides to call her – LOL

Post # 63
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Katie1992 :  Typically I would say yes.. if the name in question was something like “Meme”, “Mamaw”, “Pappy”, “Granny, “Nanny” “Papal”, “Grandpa”, etc.. but “Lovey”? I think that is weird. 

Post # 64
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Bumble bee

“Lovey”? Yikes.

They get no say, In My Humble Opinion. Not their kid, so they can’t tell them what to call them (apart from anything disrespectful, of course). I called my Grandparents “Grandma & Grandpa” and “Grammy and Grandad” so they didn’t get confused.

Post # 65
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

You don’t get to pick a nickname. They are given to you. And Lovely?! That is just weird. Like, really weird. 

Post # 66
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Sugar bee

I would be aghast if my Mother-In-Law insisted our child call her “lovey.” We’ll use “Grandma” and “Grandpa” for his parents and the equivalent words in my family’s primary language for my parents, and if our kids end up calling them something different (because they can’t pronounce a name or otherwise), that’s fine too. 

Post # 67
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

LOL. No. If I have a child it will refer to his/her grandparents as whatever variation of the titles “Grandma” and “Grandpa” the child pleases; papa, nana, grampy, gigi, or simply grandpa and grandma. 

Unless my kid somehow came up with the nickname “Lovey” on their own, which they wouldn’t, because nobody would, they will not be calling their grandma that.

Post # 68
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Busy bee

I’m surprised so many people chose the names for the grandparents! My maternal grandma went by “Annie” or sometimes “Grandmama Annie,” because she didn’t want to be called grandma. That’s what she chose and that’s what she was called until the day she died. As a toddler I gave my grandpa his nickname based on a song he used to sing me, so I chose that one and everyone stuck with it. My maternal grandma was “Nonna,” which I believe she chose as well. My fiance’s nephews have also come up with names for their own grandparents.

I do think nobody has a real right to decide what grandparents are called besides the grandparent and the grandchild, within reason, of course– I’d prefer to work with grandma to come up with a better name than Lovey but still would want her to determine her own name. I’d feel so weird assigning my parents their “grandparent names!”

Post # 69
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Helper bee

I call my aunt “aunt tracy” my grandma “grandma judy” etc…. maybe you can comprimise and let them call her “grandma lovely”?  lolololol I dont know this is kind of a weird pickle youre in 

Post # 70
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I honestly think the grandparents should pick their names. Whether or not they stick depends on the child. I don’t agree that parents should dictate what grandparents are to be called. Um, controlling much?

I grew up saying grandma and grandpa. It seemed so formal when everyone else got to call them Dot (for Dorothy) and John and I never felt comfortable with it. My brothers and I have very unusual nicknames for each other and we don’t call our parents ‘mom/dad’ or any variation of that. So being forced to address my grandparents like that was very weird for me (it was the grandparents wishes so they were respected). I love crazy/weird nicknames!

Post # 71
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Katie1992 :  She’ll be a grandmother and needs to accept that title.  I think maybe she’s just feeling overwhelmed with being a grandmother one day and a little scared of the actual title?  

Post # 72
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

liaeona :  That’s so funny. That’s the only other time I’ve ever heard of Naw-Naw. That’s what my step dad’s mother liked to be called. I thought she made it up, but maybe it’s a thing?

I’d let them pick, as long as it was an accepted grandparent name already, Mimi, Memere, Memaw, Nana, Grammie, Grandma, etc. Lovey is just weird and seems like a term for a couple in a relationship. We don’t have kids yet, but our family has mostly just adopted the title that our family has been using for generations. 

Post # 73
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Often it ends up being the child that decides what to call them.  My mom wanted to be grandma but my niece called her mima.  When my mom was getting used to that it became grandma.  My great grandfather did not want to be called anything, but we called him pop pop and that was the end of it.

Post # 74
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Busy bee

In general I say grandparents get to pick their names but within reason. Like, if the grandparents say “I want to go by Nana” its a little ridiculous for the parents to say “no I insist you go by Grandma.” But yea Lovey is weird and not within reason. If she insists on not having a typical grandparent name why not just have the baby call her some version of her name. For example, if her names Donna call her Dear Daughter. 

Post # 75
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I think grandparents should be able pick the name as long as it’s recognisable as a grandparent name or derivative thereof. Picking names associated with the parental roles or downright barking like “Sweet Momma” or “Lovey” merits a big old swerve. 

I really can’t shake off “Sweet Momma”. 

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