Post # 1

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Newbee
I’m a little nervous about having the rings on the ring bearer pillow. Is anyone doing something different such as having the best man hang onto them? If so, do you think it’s ok to still have a ring bearer carry a pillow? I have a cute little cousin that I wanted as my ring bearer and a fabulous pillow already in mind. =)
Post # 3

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Blushing bee
Rings are attached to the pillow right? They won’t come off soooo I don’t understand where the problem lies. Don’t get me wrong, I am not having a ring bearer so I have not thought this out completely. In any case I think if you don’t go with the rings on the pillow you could still have the little one walk down the isle…like he is part of the wedding party. Maybe not with the pillow though…although if you found a pillow you are in love with who cares, it’s symbolic. It’s your wedding, go with what will make you happiest.
Post # 4

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Helper bee
We’ve been trying to figure that out, too. We have two sets of rings. It’s a long story, but basically we each have a nice one and a cheap one. We’re getting married with my nice ring and his cheap one, though (we had bought them as the ultimate souvenirs on our first cruise together). I’m debating tying the cheap ones to the pillow and having the best man hold the nice ones. But if we don’t do that, we’ll just have him carry the pillow down without the rings at all, I think.
Does anyone know how to tie the rings onto the pillow, and how secure it is?
Post # 5

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Helper bee
I seriously don’t want a 6 year old responsible for thousands of dollars worth of rings so we’re having two little fake rings attached to the pillow and our best man/maid of honor will have our actual rings. Not to mention our ring bearer has a hyperactivity problem and often goes destructo so I’m not even expecting the pillow itself to make it out of the ceremony unharmed.
Post # 6

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Busy bee
We are having him carry the pillow, no rings attached. I think having a 3 year old carry my platinum wedding ring is just too risky even for me
Post # 7

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Newbee
Thanks everyone for the replies! To respond to ANIMATED LIBRARIAN, I think the others have touched on what the issue is – being nervous about expensive jewelry on a pillow that a young boy carries around. I know it’s not for that long amount of time, but I’m a type-A and would want to watch him like a hawk but just won’t be able to and I don’t trust anyone else (even his own mother) to guarantee that they will not let that boy do anything that would endanger those rings.
I’m so glad other women are thinking of having the ring bearer walk down with the pillow and no rings. Thanks again!
Post # 8

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Helper bee
We had my 3 year old nephew as our ring bearer…and he DEFINITELY was not responsible for the rings. Heck, I didn’t even let my Maid/Matron of Honor be responsible for the rings…that duty went to the Best Man (who was much more responsible and took his job very seriously). You know what was on our ring bearer pillow? A Lightning McQueen matchbox car the belonged to my nephew. It made him more comfortable walking down the aisle. Also made for some super cute photos! Absolutely adorable 🙂
Post # 9

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Sugar bee
We are having FIs 3 year old nephew and he will carry a 2nd set of rings. We have 2 sets because we ordered sterling silver ones off MyJewelryBox.com and they didnt look or fit right. Instead of sending them back (they were cheap) we just decided to use them as stand ins. My real ring is only like $15 from Overstock anyways! I am waiting to upgrade!!
Post # 10

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Bumble bee
We are having little silver plastic bands tied on a ribbon around a stuffed animal that he will be carrying- It’s a Polar Bear because that is the nick name that my Fiance has always had for me. As for the real rings- they will most likely be in the best man’s pocket.
Post # 11

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Blushing bee
My nephew is disabled and will be carried down the aisle by his parents (most likely) holding a pillow with fake rings (although I really like the idea of a toy instead). I made the pillow myself so no big deal if something happens to it but the real rings I’d be too paranoid about, and not just because of my nephew. I don’t trust slippery satin ribbon and metal to stay put, haha.
Post # 12

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Blushing bee
My ringbearer will be just over a year old, so he will not be holding our actual rings. haha. He will have a pillow with fake rings on it (ie. plastic ones that are tied down good so he doesn’t put them in his mouth).
Post # 13

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Buzzing bee
Of course it depends on the age and maturity of the ring bearer. We had an 8 year old carry ours so we trusted him with holding the real rings!
Post # 14

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Honey Beekeeper
No, we’ll likely have fakes tied to the pillow and entrust the best man with the real rings.
Post # 15

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Wannabee
My daughter is having a beach wedding and her ring bearer is going to carry a small treasure chest. I think it is a cute alternative to a pillow.
Post # 15

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Wannabee
My daughter is having a beach wedding and her ring bearer is going to carry a small treasure chest. I think it is a cute alternative to a pillow.