Post # 1
A concept that comes up a lot around here is trying to be "timeless": trying to avoid the trends so your wedding photos won’t look dated in 10 or 20 years or more. At the same time, though, we all know that the odds are stacked against us….we thought we were the height of style back in the 80s and 90s and look at those photos now! We all have a good time when Miss Hot Cocoa posts her 90s-era photographs (kudos to you for sharing these!). Mrs. Avocado brought this topic up last month with her pictures of 90s brides.
It’s not too hard to identify what makes something trendy, but what makes something timeless? What would a timeless wedding look like? Is it even something we should be trying for? How will your wedding be timeless (or not)?
Post # 3
I don’t think there is such a thing as a timeless wedding. Even weddings that were uber-stylish (think JFK and Jackie) are still dated. Gorgeous, but dated. I just want my ceremony to reflect my tastes as they are now, because I know in 10 years they will be totally different. I was married before and what I am choosing now is *nothing* like what I had then!
Post # 4
Well, I think there are some timeless qualities. All you need to do is look at my dad’s mutton-chops in the 70’s to know that some things are a bad idea!
I think trends are fine as long as they are done in a thoughtful way. My mom’s wedding dress is very classically 1970, but it was a beautiful dress and it still looks good today. Dad’s mutton-chops, not so much!
Post # 5
I think I’m aiming less for "timeless" (which is arguably impossible) and aiming more for classic/classy. For me, that means keeping things pretty simple, which works well since that’s my natural style anyways!
Post # 6
I’m trying to make my look timeless. I want my kids to look back on our wedding pictures and go "Wow, mom you’re beautiful!" not "Wow … what were you wearing?"
Post # 7
@doctorgirl: what makes your mom’s 1970s dress still look good today? Is it that it fit her well? That is was of a nice fabric? Something else? I’m curious.
My mom got married in 1969 in a white satin bell-bottom pantsuit and she looks adorable in the photos. But don’t get me wrong, no way would I wear that today….my sister wore the top as a minidress to my rehearsal dinner after-party on Halloween as a costume, but my mom in the photos with her cat’s eye glasses? Adorable. To me it evokes the era so well is what makes it so great. What makes a difference between "evoking an era" and looking great and just looking dated and unfortunate is how much time has passed. The 70s are far enough gone now that things from that era look cute, whereas things from more recent bygone decades can look just plain unfortunate. But in 10 or 20 years the 80s will probably look vintage and cute to us.
Post # 8
Mom’s dress is a classic empire waist with very few details and clean straight lines of chiffon and silk.
The empire waist with brooch beading in a diamond shape just under the bust was the trendy part, but the elegant simplicity kept it from being kitschy or gimmicky. Also the dress flattered her figure almost as an accessory without being the story. It might seem simple by today’s standards, but could certainly be worn now without looking out of place.
She later didn’t like her dress because it was ivory, but I think that was a very smart decision on her part. Maybe she was just ahead of her time!
I’ll try to find a picture of something similar, but I don’t know if I’ll come up with anything…
Post # 9
I think the key to keep it all timeless is to keep it simple. Those poofy sleves of the 80’s were so over the top! I have seen the 2009 equivalent on "Say Yes to the Dress" with see-through corsets and ruffles everywhere. If that is what you love, who cares if it looks dated? You will still look back on it fondly. I am more of a simple dresser anyway, though, so I don’t think it will be that bad in 10 years to look back at my pics.
Post # 10
I search high and low for an image that’s similar to my mom’s wedding dress. The closest I can come is the image on the right. Imagine it without the lace overlay at the chest and with a large diamond shaped brooch just under the bust in the center. I think it was 3/4 length sleeves and not full sleeves.
Post # 11
I think everyones interpretation of Timeless is different. So I think your wedding can look timeless in your view and not timeless in others views. Your wedding is how you make it! and everyone’s perception is different!
Post # 12
I think everyone’s weddings will look dated- no matter what. As much as we don’t try to follow trends, things do go in and out of style.
That doesn’t mean they won’t look fabulous in 10-20 years, but they won’t look like the weddings that will be happening 10-20 years from now.
We’re doing what we want, and how we want it to look now. I don’t care if it looks "timeless" in the future. it’s my wedding, in 2009- who cares? I want it to look nice, but it doesn’t bother me. It will be dated- I know that.