(Closed) Will/did anyone having a friend officiate?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

We’re doing this! We’re different religions so it makes the most sense for us. When i asked around, it seemed everyone has had great experiences with friends officiating. I think the key is lots of practice 🙂

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

We’re doing this (FI’s brother in law is doing it, actually).  We decided to do it because my Fiance performed both of his sisters’ weddings and it was really special for them to have their brother performing this integral part of the ceremony.  The first wedding was in Ohio, the second in Texas, and ours will be in Tennessee.  We haven’t encountered any legal difficulties, though I was a little worried because Tennessee can be a religiously conservative state.  However, I’m trying to improve my abilities at delegating, and as such, I asked Future Brother-In-Law (our officiant) to look into all the details and what we would need to do.  I highly recommend that because it takes something off of your plate!  Good luck!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

my best gal friend since the age of 8 is marrying us! i couldn’t imagine it any other way.

plus, the past TWO weddings i went to, the officiant called either the bride or the groom by the wrong damn name! my friend dustin was called “justin” twice in their ceremony. then my friend kathryn was called “kathleen”. my mind was BLOWN! plus, my name is hard to pronounce for a lot of people for some reason. my name is shanna…it’s pronounced like “hanna” but with an “sh” sound at the beginning. rhymes with “banana”. if someone would have called me “shannon”, “shaina”, or “shawna” on my wedding day, i’m pretty sure i would have taken off a shoe right then and there and beat them with it!

fi’s family is a bit apprehensive about us not being married by a preacher or something along those lines, but i think once they see just how sweet and personal our ceremony will be, they’ll forget that they were ever concerned about it!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I did!  I wrote the ceremony and it was officiated by one of my good friends! =) 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

If you are having ordained friends marry you in Philly, check about the legality.  PA doesn’t like internet ordained ministers, and there have been marriages annulled because they were officiated by internet ordained ministers.  In some parts of PA, you can get a self-uniting license (it’s a little bit more expensive to do, and you have to ask for it when you apply) because there are so many Quaker communities in PA that don’t have any officiate at the weddings, and this is a good solution – have a friend “lead” the ceremony, but get the self-uniting license so you’re legally married by yourselves.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

@danadelphia – I did some research on the legal aspects of being married by a minister ordained online, and it should be fine. There were a couple of lawsuits on this issue, and the final decision was that it is legal. Here’s a link with some information: http://www.allbusiness.com/legal/trial-procedure-decisions-rulings/12178684-1.html

I also called the government office in Philly that is responsible for marriages and asked them. They also said it was fine.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We’re having a family friend officiate…but she’s a superior court judge. She’s extremely excited to get to do the “fun” part of her job 🙂

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

One of my favorite weddings I’ve been to did this!  All of us have been friends for years and it was so fun to see.  I think it’s a great idea!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My cousin got married in August ’08 and she asked our relative – married to our mothers’ cousin – to perform the ceremony.  He did a wonderful job, and I asked him to do our ceremony too. 

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