Post # 1
I wanted to see what everyone thought about having family in the delivery room. Both parents seem to be insistant that they be in the room for the delivery, but I would rather just have it be me and my husband. Is that selfish?
Post # 3
Luckily for me, my mom doesn’t want to be there. My Mother-In-Law hates to be pushy and asked if she was allowed in the hospital waiting room during the delivery which I thought was funny, of course she can!
It will just be my husband there with me.
Post # 4
DH and I have already talked about this. I would like it to just be us.
Post # 5
I wasn’t sure how I felt about this until I was ready to push! My husband, my mother and Mother-In-Law were all in the room during the contractions (my DH by my side and the mothers just waiting for a way they could help/getting water/etc) and as soon as they started to REALLY hurt (right before pushing) I had my husband nicely kick out both our moms. I’m glad it was just us too. I didn’t have to worry about them or what they were doing or thinking or saying!
Post # 6
My son’s father and his mom were in my room but if I could redo that day I’d have done it alone. I don’t think your selfish to want just you and your husband, no one else was there when you 2 created the baby lol. IMO this is just as private and personal a moment as that one…
Post # 7
@franks.katie: I’m not pregnant, but I have thought a lot about this issue. Bottom line: YOU are the one delivering the baby. You get to call the shots about who’s in the room, and you don’t need to feel guilty about anything you decide. It’s not selfish to want to restrict access to the delivery room–it’s not a show! I’d be really thrown off if anyone other than my hubby asked to be in the room.
Post # 8
Maybe lay down a few guidlines on how close they can get or if there is to be no talking and whatnot LOL. It really depends on the parents personality. My mom is usually pushy, but I knew I wanted her there, but when the time came, you don’t even realize anyone else is in the room. It’s just you and your baby really. I didn’t even notice my fiance there really LOL And they didn’t get to hold her until much later. I would say a good hour or so after she was born. I had to start eating not long after I pushed her out bc 35 hours with no food was REALLY getting to me LOL I think it is personal preference. They should understand and support you with whatever you decide though…
Post # 9
We’re years away from babies but it will just be Fiance and I in there. I’m sure both my mother and aunt will pitch a fit but I don’t care.
Funny story (well maybe not that funny)… When one of my best friends had her daughter 4 years ago she was a receptionist in the labor and delivery unit of our local hospital. When she went into labor both her and her husband’s (boyfriend at the time) families were there. The hospital normally has a 2 person rule but because she was an employee and a friend to all of the doctors and nurses they thought that they were doing her a favor by allowing all of their family members to stay in the room. My friend was so out of it that at the time she just wanted the baby out of her, she wasn’t even thinking about who was in there. Well the baby was born and my friend looked up only to find that her parents, grandparents, sisters, brother, mother in law, brother in law & brother in laws girlfriend all just watched her poop herself. She. Was. LIVID. She eventually got over it and can laugh about it now but can you imagine having all of those people watch you give birth? I would have died.
Post # 10
Both parents as in Dads too? I was alone with just my husband as I think it’s a very private time with no need to have other family eyes watching.
Post # 11
HELL. NO. Well Im only allowed my husband for a c-section anyways, so there are no exceptoins there. But if I was delivering naturally, HELL NO. Just DH. NO moms. Actually, Id have my dad there (I know some will find that weird, but hes the only one who wouldnt stress me out) but man would my mom freak the f out over that
Post # 12
Although we’re not TTC yet, both DH and my mother will for sure be in the delivery room (assuming my mom can make it in time after I go in to labor – she’ll have to catch a plane). My Mother-In-Law will be welcome if she wants, but DH suspects she won’t want to be there.
Post # 13
For delivery just my husband. But if it’s taking awhile I don’t mind if my sisters or mom pop into say hi, I guess depends how it’s going. Husband’s in charge and my family isn’t sensitive so when they’re told to leave they will.
Post # 14
I’m definitely going to want my fiance and mom in there with me.
Post # 15
I voted other because it’s hell no.
It will be DH or if he is deployed at the time, my Mum. That’s it.
Post # 16
If DH is home for the delivery, it’ll be just the two of us. If he’s not here, I’ll have my mom with me. I don’t mind if my parents pop in for a little while but I don’t want a ton of people in and out of my room. I’ll have enough to worry about. I don’t want anyone seeing my va jay jay that shouldnt be and I don’t want any pictures taken that I wouldn’t approve of. (Do i really need anyone taking a picture while this kid is crowning? i think not!)