Post # 1
Has anyone done this? Seen it done? Have any thoughts on it?
For those of you (like me) who haven’t heard of it before, here’s what it is: Before the wedding, the bride and groom write a note to each other about why they fell in love and how they feel today. Then at the ceremony, the officiant explains the wine box ceremony, and in front of everyone, the bride and groom put their love notes and a bottle of their favorite wine in the wine box, which is then locked, and they vow to open up on whichever anniversary they choose (we’d probably do 10th). It’s supposed to be a reminder of why you fell in love and how you felt on your wedding day. The only time it can be opened earlier than that anniversary is if you hit a rocky point in the relationship – then you’re supposed to open it and it will hopefully help to remind you why you fell in love in the first place. The ceremony takes about 5 minutes and would be done in place of a unity candle or unity sand.
Wine box example: http://www.etsy.com/listing/83412656/wedding-wine-box-woodburned-and
We’re getting married at a winery and we love wine, so I thought this might be a nice personal addition to our ceremony, but I’ve never seen it done, so if anyone has any feedback, I’d love to hear it!
Post # 3
We did it and we absolutely loved it. We both love wine as well and it was a nice way to tie in our interests into the ceremony. We received lots of compliments on it and we don’t regret doing it one bit. I think people really enjoyed that it was a little different from the unity candle or sand ceremony, but that it still represented two people coming together. For us, the most difficult thing was choosing the perfect wine :-).
Post # 4
That is such an amazing idea!! My fiance and I are wine loves too, we actually make homemade wine a lot together. This is something I’m defietely going to ask him about doing 🙂
(Only problem is we enjoy semi-sweet and sweet wines, they usually don’t age very well haha)
Post # 5
We’re doing it! Neither of us were interested in a unity candle and sand doesn’t really fit with a wedding at a museum. Our officiant showed us the wine box ceremony and we loved it. Fiance is very handy and is building the box himself, so it’ll be that much more special.
For the actual ceremony, we’re going to pre-drill some holes so that we aren’t up there forever trying to pound in the nails. It’s going to be short and sweet and we’ll really seal it up later on. The ceremony portion will be more symbolic and short.
Post # 6
We are doing a love letter box ceremony. No wine, just love letters written to each other and not shared. I found a small wooden box, decorated it, had it engraved. I love it. Can’t wait!
Post # 7
My SIL did this. I’d never heard of it before but thought it was a nice part of the ceremony.
Post # 8
Thanks for all the input, ladies! It’s so nice to hear people who have done this or plan to do it – I knew I couldn’t be the only one but I’ve never seen or heard of it before.
@carrot12 – you should do it! there’s all kinds of variations…although I agree that sweet wine probably wouldn’t be the best after 10 years in a box! haha
@misspeanut – love that your Fiance is making the box! that really adds a special element.
@sunbee – that sounds so sweet, too…I love all these different variations on the traditional ceremony!
Post # 9
I am interested in doing the wine box ceremony in place of a unity candle as well. However, I still have a song I want to play during this part of the ceremony. If you have done this, is there a way for the officient to explain the ceremony as well as have time for a song?
Post # 10
So I was a guest at a wedding where this was done, and honestly, it was SUPER awkward. My entire row was looking around going… “wait,… what?” Now, This may have been because the officiant said “So on your first anniversary, you’ll take the wine out, drink it, and read the letters. Or, if you two are about to do something stupid, you break the box open early.” I think the way it’s explained is key. This guy was awwwwkward.