Post # 1
Hello lady bees,
I’ve been reading up on ceremony ideas, and I’m hoping for some help. My fiance and I are having a non-religeous wedding. Our officiant is wonderful, and has a great base format to work from in developing the ceremony. He told us that there would still be plenty of substance to the ceremony without any kind of symbolic tradition, if that is what we prefer. I absolutely don’t want to offend anyone, but the unity candle (wich is on the religious side), the sand, the roses… not for us. However, I am loving the idea of the wine box ceremony. It seems very romantic, and not at all hokey. Problem: neither of us like wine!
Has anyone seen, heard of, or thought of any alternatives to wine? I know there’s a lot of symbolism behind the aging of the wine, and it’s something nice to share when you read the letters… but is there anything else out there that can reflect that same idea?
I’d like to do something special in the wedding. Short and sweet is good, but I still want good substance and romance. Any help is appreciated!
Post # 3
We are the same, didn’t really like any of the “common” ceremony “activities”
What I loved most about our wine box ceremony was more about the love letters & the symbolism the box has vs. the actual wine.
You could totally do scotch, or any liquor that ages well 🙂
Post # 4
@AnnieAAA: I appreciate the love letters, too. That’s absolutely my favorite part. I like the liquor alternative, but I don’t know if it’ll work. I drink on occasion… no oppositions at all. The Mr., though, is not much of a drinker at all. While he might have a sip a couple times a year, I don’t know that he’d be crazy about using alcohol. He’s not anti-alcohol, but it’s just not very fitting for him/us. 🙁
Post # 5
hummm, I’m trying to think of something that would stay preserved and that would be enjoyable years later.
What about sparkling grape juice? I think it would still stay good years later, if left sealed.
Post # 6
If I remember correctly, you’re supposed to open the box if you’re ever having problems with your marriage, drink the wine and read the letters. I think part of the idea behind the wine is that it “opens you up” to talk and really let loose your issues. For that reason, I think another liquor would be a good alternative, but since you’ve said neither of you like to drink, try thinking about what really relaxes you. Could you put a few hundred dollar bills in the box to spend on a nice dinner if the time comes? Or some candles to burn while you read the letters?
Just pick something meaningful to the both of you!
Post # 7
Has anyone else heard of anyone else putting a twist on this ceremony? Anything other than beverages?
@toshella: Thanks for the constructive ideas… however I’m still struggling with it a bit. The candles, while romantic, for ceremony purposes seem a little cheesy (and please don’t be offended, I think everything is cheesy :). And while the money for a nice dinner is smart, it’s not exactly romantic. Again, I’m thinking back to the ceremony presentation.
Darn it, why don’t we just like wine? 🙂
Post # 8
What about champagne instead? What about filling it with your favorite things as a couple – first movie you watched, CD of your favorite songs, Pictures – and then you’ll have more of a time capsule of your relationship.
Fiance and I are doing the wine ceremony – we love wine, so we’re sticking with that, but we’re not doing the whole ‘open the box if your marriage is in trouble’ thing. We’re planning to open the box each year on our anniversay, drink the wine, read the letters, write new letters, new bottle of wine, and seal it up for the following year. That way, all the love letters will be saved over time and it’s our time capsule – something that might be nice for our kids to see / read someday when we’re gone.
Post # 9
@pnytail01: Haha, not offended at all! I probably wouldn’t put either of those things in our box as well. I feel lucky we like wine and can pull that off!
I like Lioness’ idea of putting in time capsule materials. I think that would go very well with the letters. Good luck!!