Post # 1
i LOVe the idea of a wine box! For anyone who doesn’t know, this is where at the ceremony, usually instead of a unity candle, the bride and groom put letters that they have written to each other and a bottle of wine in a wooden box. They then either lock it with a key or nail it shut. I had always heard it that the tradition is to open it together on the 5th or 10th anniversary and read the letters and drink the wine. However, I recenlty heard of the idea of opening it EVERY year, reading the letters, and adding one to it! I think I love that idea. But I also like the thought of not being able to read the letter for a while. What do you guys think sounds better? 🙂
Post # 3
I would want enough time in between to forget the exact wording of the letters. I think rereading them would bring back more memories if they aren’t as fresh in my mind (and so I pick every few years, not sure what intervals, and I like the idea of adding to them because how you feel on your 5 year anniversary will be interesting on your 50 year anniversary. Also add lots of wine so you can drink some each time :P)
Post # 4
@asscherlover: I think that’s a very good point! Every year is probably too much. Also, I’m not even sure if we would really want to read 50 letters on our 50th anniversary lol! I think every 5 years is good, since we originally wanted to wait until 5th anniversary anyway- only difference will be that we will add to it!
(Or maybe we could do it on our first anniversary and then on 5th intervals)
Post # 5
Opening it after some years is a really lovely idea.
I like wine and while I am no expert I like to think I have acquired a taste for them and I have to say it is a waste of a good wine! Only a few bottles can withstand prolonged periods of storage. Most are not designed to and even those that are can be hit-and-miss. So if you open it every year you can make most of the amazing wines you are sure to buy for these opportunities!
But if you changed the wine to something more durable – like whiskey, pear distillate or something like that… Then by all means wait for your bigger anniversary! 🙂
Also, if you decide to open every year, you don’t have to read the letter or add a new one – just celebrate the anniversary – toast with the previous year’s bottle and put in a new one and save the letter for the 5th/10th/whichever anniversary.
And one more idea: Write the letter and put it in on the wedding day, then, on the anniversary, just add small cards with a few words about the passed year – what are your favorite moments, achivements, milestones… You can go through them every year and see how your relationship evolved 🙂 And it is not too bulky/demanding for less accomodating husbands 😉
Post # 6
@Vlcatko: Great ideas!! Thanks!
Post # 7
If you are going to wait longer than a year you would have to be very conscientious of how your box is stored. I have had perfectly good red wines go bad just sitting on my counter due to random heat waves, high humidity etc.
Post # 8
I love your idea and I think its great!!!! I don’t know if we would be good with waiting to drink the wine thought…Fiance and I got 4 bottles of champagne for our engagement party and we drank 3 of them…this Valentine’s day….it was fun 🙂
Post # 9
Actually, many, many, many wines not only can withstand aging but will improve in 5-10 years (or even 25 or 50, assuming optimal storage conditions). So don’t let that stop you. Just go to a wine store you trust, tell them your price range and that you want a wine that will be better in 5-10 years than it is now, and you should be fine. (It will set you back a bit, but presumably you’d want something special to drink on an anniversary anyway, right? Keeping it under $30 or so should be no problem as long as you’re up-front about how much you want to spend.)
As @Treejewel19: pointed out, though, you’ll wanted to be careful about storage. Keep the box someplace cool–the cooler the better. And don’t leave it sitting in a hot car or anything (on your wedding day, or if you happen to move in the middle of the summer at some point, etc.). That will kill it.
Post # 10
@kerri13: I like waiting until the 5 year mark.