We’re doing it during the wedding ceremony as our unity ceremony (so yes, for us it replaces the candle, sand, ring warming, hand fasting, etc). We’re actualy doing a bourbon box instead of a wine box 🙂 We told our officiant what it was and then she researched it herself and put a description into the ceremony. Something like this:
Today, Goose and bear have chosen as a couple to perform a
This box contains a bottle of spirits, two glasses, and a love letter
from one to the other. The letters describe the good qualities
they find in one another, the reasons they fell in love, and their
reasons for choosing to marry. The letters are sealed in individual
envelopes and they have not seen what the other has written.
Should they ever find their marriage in serious trouble, before
making any irrational decisions, they must
open the box, drink together, and read the letter that they wrote to
one another to reflect on why
they fell in love with each other in the first place. The hope is
that they will instead be able to open it as a celebration, once
they reach their 10th anniversary. They will be able to relive the
moments and feelings of today and look at how they have grown
together as husband and wife.
I recommend that you keep the box in a place of honor
prominently displayed in your home as a constant reminder of
your commitment to each other…
Bear and Goose, you may now seal the box.
@abbie017: I’m actually excited to hammer our box shut at the ceremony! Although, you could also do a lock and key instead or just close the box and latch it.