Post # 1
This is my first time posting here but I’m hoping for some advice! My fiancé and I are planning to have a small winter wedding and my mother in law mentioned how beautifully they have the church decorated for Christmas. It is a lovely thought but this leaves me wondering what kind of time frame we would have to work with.
I guess I’m wondering if anyone has ever attended a wedding right around the holidays or not been able to attend BECAUSE of the holiday? What do you think would be an appropriate date for this occasion? If it were you, would you just hold off and have it late January/early feb. instead? I’m at a loss.. I think it’s a beautiful thought, but perhaps too impractical.
And advice is so welcome!
a horrible planner
Post # 2
my sister got married dec 19th. catholic church. since it was still advent, the church wasn’t fully decorated for christmas yet, though there were some decorations and my family provided lots of poinsetta for the altar. if you want full-on christmas, you might have to wait until AFTER christmas depending on your church.
Post # 3
I’ve attended a few weddings in the Christmas season. They’re beautiful but they do present challenges for guests. If you plan it too close to Christmas, some people might not be able to come, especially if there is travel involved. People might have travel obligations for the holidays or people visiting them. Budgets are also stretched thin that time of year.
If you do a wedding around Christmas, I would try to avoid the weekends right before and after.
Also, I don’t know where you live but weather is something to consider in some areas. A friend got married the weekend before Christmas in New York several years back. A blizzard hit that day and dumped two feet of snow on the area. People couldn’t get to it as roads and public transportation were shut down – I think about 25% of the guests cancelled at the last minute.
Post # 4
My brother and SIL got married a week before Christmas. Pretty much everyone was annoyed with thier date. The weather was terrible and even dangerous to drive in. Travel was way more expensive. And budgets are already tight that time of year plus people usually have so many other obligations for thier time.
Post # 5
We got married Dec. 22. The church was beautifully decorated and our wedding was beautiful. We had light snow that day, but just about everyone we invited came. The church was packed. Now, that we have children though, we’ve found it’s very hard to go celebrate our anniversary.
Post # 6
I was Maid/Matron of Honor in my friend’s wedding on Dec. 7th. The church was already decorated but it wasn’t so close to Christmas that it interfered with holiday activities. You’ll also want to remember that airfares and hotel rates will be at a peak during the holidays, so if you have guests travelling in – you’ll want to be considerate of that. As PP mentioned, winter weddings pose a weather risk. DH and I were looking at doing a winter wedding and my mom talked us out of it… as it turns out, each date we had previously penciled in had crazy winter storms! It will be absolutely beautiful though! And so cozy! Good luck with the planning!
Post # 7
It is a pain in the ass for guests as there are so many other events at that time of year and those that have to travel will pay through the nose. In addition, reception venues will be booked far in advance (and may even be more expensive) because of corporate holiday parties.
Post # 8
I personally think Christmas weddings are beautiful!! If I were able I would absolutely attend a wedding during the holidays. Perhaps something to consider is how far away the majority of your guests will be. If most are local, it shouldn’t be a big issue. If many would be traveling, I would just be prepared if more than normal can’t make it. As long as it’s not on Christmas Eve/Christmas Day, I don’t see a problem. As far as decorations are concerned, I think that will depend on your venue. Mine decorates the week after Thanksgiving and doesn’t take it down till the first week of January or so. If you have an idea of what venue you want to use, go ahead and ask about that so you’ll know how restrictive you need to be with your date. I don’t think it’s impractical at all as long as you plan out the details well in advance.
Post # 8
December is such a tough month. Everyone is super busy and basically broke and the travelling conditions are more dangerous and/or expensive…
If you want a winter wedding I’d try to stick to late Jan or Feb, or maybe the first week of December if you really want it to have a hint of Christmas to it.
Post # 10
December is a tough time to have weddings because so many people have other holiday obligations. It’s also very expensive to travel to a wedding during that time of year. We did ours at the end of November before the rush of the Christmas season. Our venue (country club) did the whole winter wonderland/Christmas theme for us as that’s when they decorate for the holidays anyways so it was easy. They were super accommodating with everything and it was beautiful and the date worked for everyone to attend, even those who had to fly in. I love that time of year as it’s so cozy and beautiful. We had snow already so there were lots of beautiful photos of us out on the patio during the daytime and at night with the beautiful lights and me wearing my fur stole. If you want the Christmas theme, I suggest looking into end of November dates – it will be more affordable because it’s also off-season and you don’t have to compete with all the other Christmas events in December.
Post # 11
- Wedding: December 2016 - Presidio Log Cabin
I got married on December 10, but really only felt ok about it because we had a very small wedding with mostly local guests who wouldn’t need to fly/stay in hotels. I agree with others that it can be hard to ask family and friends to take off time right before Christmas.
Another challenge as finding vendors, since that was a peak corporate holiday party night. It was a battle for caterers, photobooth, DJ etc since many large tech companies in SF had booked theirs over a year in advance! Just something to consider.
All that said, I LOVE the holiday season and winter, so this was my dream wedding. 🙂 Our venue had a huge fireplace that was such a beautiful centerpiece, and having twinkly lights and candles on a cold night was just perfect. Our family and friends who attended had a fantastic time, and we were able to go on a tropical honeymoon and be back with family for Christmas. It was definitely the best month of my life!
Post # 12
Not sure what area of the country you are in, but I just want to counter all these comments about bad weather. In the northeast, winter has barely arrived by mid-late December. You’re much more likely to have a nor’easter in January or February. But of course weather is a risk with any time of year!
Post # 13
If you think that your feelings will be hurt by a low guest count, I would suggest you don’t book a wedding too close to the holidays because even if people want to be there, they just may not be able to swing it. It’s a busy, expensive time of year. Between work Christmas parties, family gatherings, gifts, trips, etc a lot of people may not have the time or funds to be able to attend a wedding in December or early January.
Perhaps you can have the wedding in bovemNov or February but ask the church what they would charge to decorate with a similar scheme for your wedding? They already have the lights and stuff so maybe it wpwould cheaper to use lights and things like that instead of flowers. You’d probably want to make it feel a bit less Christmassy, but I can see silver Garland, icicle lights, white lights, etc looking beautiful especially in a church!
Post # 14
My friend got married on the 5th December and it was lovely. Not too close to Christmas to be a pain, but close enough there was a christmas tree in the ceremony and reception room (non religious wedding though)
Only down side was being in the North of the UK it got dark at 3pm as we were sitting down to the meal. Made the day feel quite short.
Post # 15
We wanted to get married December 8, but our venue was already booked. Our options were Dec 22, Dec 29, and January 5. We asked our friends and family and I did a poll here about the dates. Most people said the 22nd and 29th would be too close to Christmas, so we went with January.