(Closed) Wish I hadn't told my co-workers I'm pregnant

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

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leighleigh88 :  Tell her straight out that this is confidential information, and that you told er because you consider her a friend, but that you need her help to keep it under wraps, which means not talking about it at work. Hopefully that’ll ocver both bases.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I think people tend to want to share in your excitement but I can see how the constant questioning could get old. Maybe just give short but pointed answers? Its tricky because you “let them in” and sometimes being in on a secret makes people think they’re owed more information than you want to give. It may settle down when its less secretive. Best of luck with the pregnancy.

Post # 4
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Worker bee

I would say it exactly as you already have.  Tell them you’re a private person by nature, and the only reason you’ve confided something this important in them is that you see them as friends as well as co-workers.  Let them know that discussing it at the office makes you uncomfortable and you’d like to keep your personal and work life separate as much as you can.

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Bumble Beekeeper

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leighleigh88 :  if you figure it out let me know! One of my female bosses figured out that I was doing IVF as she had done it herself and recognized the pattern of being out for appointments, etc. I appreciate that she cares enough to ask how I am, but I also don’t want to tell her the outcome of the treatment right away. I’m still waiting for my beta, but I already had a positive FRER and I’m not sure how I’m going to tell her “I’m not telling you yet” after this week is over….

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: The Retreat at Bradley\'s Pond

If you’re nearly 10 weeks- I’d just go ahead and tell your boss already. Tell them that you’d like to keep it confidential until 12-13 weeks or whenever you want to share. That way it at least takes off the pressure of hiding it some. They may be upset you haven’t said anything yet if these ladies are gossiping about it. 

Then follow up with both ladies and explain that it is a private HR issue and it’s not to be discussed openly as it concerns your private health. You’d be happy to discuss via e-mail and text but it’s not open discussion until you say so. 

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

No advice, just totally can sympathize. A woman in my office is 37 weeks pregnant and it’s ALL anyone talks about to her. She is so frustrated. She hid it from the office until 5 months (!) just to avoid that. I’m following in her footsteps- I told her because it’s nice to have someone to talk to, but not telling anyone else until I have to. 14 weeks and still glad my uterus is not the center of everyone’s attention!

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Unfortunately…news in any office seems to spread like widfires. I would just smile graciously and eventually the newness of it all will wear off.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

No advice either, but I can sympathize. We have a large cafe downstairs in my office and the people that work in it are VERY sweet and I know they mean well, but I am about 19 weeks pregnant and they ask me EVERY single day how I’m feeling. Like I said, I know they mean it in a good way and to be nice, but omg, it’s frustrating answering that every day. I have had a very easy pregnancy so far and never complained a word about it, and so every day I go “I still feel great! thank you!”.

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Bumble bee

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leighleigh88 :  

I think when you told the two you kinda opened a can of worms. It’s unfair they can’t keep their voices down tho. The news will spread now, I would just tell them kindly that you told them about it but in confidence and if they could please keep it to themselves. Hopefully they do listen.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

I get where you are coming from… But people love pregnant women and they want to sincerely know how you are doing, feeling, etc. I would try to not let it bother you.

My boss has like sounded the alarm to our office and threatened anyone that came to work sick or thinking about getting sick because I am pregnant. I think it is funny!

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