Post # 1
SO and I were in the car a few weeks ago and the subject of rings came up and he was like well I don’t know what you want (I have given him 2 pics already). But he doesn’t want me to get too excited if he takes me shopping because he claims nothing is going to happen yet. He wants to be prepared and wants it to be a surprise if he does propose. Like if he waits until he is really ready and takes me shopping it won’t be a surprise? Well…he hasn’t offered to take me shopping and I REALLY want to. I promised I wouldn’t get too excited (even though I probably will and just keep it to myself). I had to pick up a new cable box yesterday which happens to be at the mall and instead of just going myself I asked him to go with in the hopes he would say oh hey lets go into this store. Well no luck! Bummer. I don’t want to bring it up because I want him to do it…so I guess I will be patient for now 😛 Being patient is overrated.
Post # 3
@HopefulInLove: Maybe he’s worried that if you go to a store together you HAVE to buy something. Make sure he knows you can just browse, try them on, and even if you like one, you can have the salesperson write down the style information, so he could go back without you if you had your heart set on that one… whenever he wanted! I know some stores can be really pushy, so just be honest and say, we’re just browsing, looking for ideas, and check out a couple of places. I know my SO was really intimidated by some of the stores that had tons and tons of cases (even if just 1 or 2 were engagement rings) and he was a little overwhelmed and didn’t know how to handle the salespeople, all the jewelery.. so it might just be a comfort thing.
Post # 4
@HopefulInLove: Let’s say you two go look at rings…you know what you’re going to want next?? The actual ring. And I’m saying this from experience. I was soooo over the moon that SO and I went looking for rings and that we agreed on THE ring…and now I’m back to waiting. Right after looking, there was this high and I thought that would get everything moving. But guys seem to have their own idea of what the right pace is and what steps they should be taking. The wait is worth it, we just have to keep reminding ourselves of that 🙂
Post # 5
It may be difficult, but it would be best to wait for him to suggest it. Men dont want to be coerced into shopping for a major purchase before they are ready. I tried to suggest it to my Boyfriend or Best Friend once and he was not receptive to the idea at all. A year later he told me we were going ring shopping completely out of the blue. I was ecstatic, and he seem really pleased with himself being able to make me so happy.
That’s just my own experience, yours may be different. However, if there’s one thing I’ve learned about men it’s that pushing them into doing something they aren’t ready/willingto do will usually have the opposite effect you want it to.
Test the waters, ask him once. If he says no dice, it’s time to put on your patient pants.
Post # 6
@Papillon23: In the same boat as you. We went ring shopping in August, still waiting lol. Although he does have the ring, who knows when I’ll get it.
Let him suggest ring shopping. My SO took me to the mall to get a necklace fixed and while there he asked the sales lady to point us in the direction of rings. I was shocked he did this all on his own, and so glad he did. I had mentioned it before looking, so he must have felt it was time.
KittenB really took the words out of my mouth. Ask about the ring and gauge his reaction. You’ll know right off the bat if he’s feeling it or not.