Post # 1
…Whether we can just have it on our wedding website. We were planning to have it on there any way, but I mean instead of having it on a separate card included with the invitation as well. To help save on cost and the use of paper.
We are having a smallish wedding and I am 99% sure that most of our guest will be ok to get to and use the website. (There is only like maybe three people that may not be able to get to the website, so I thought on theirs I could add in the little poem card).
Has anyone else done this? Or received an invitation like this? Or is it silly?
How could I direct them to the poem? Just with ‘Please see our wedding website for more information’ and let them find it themselves when they click through or should I be more specific so they realise they need to go to the website for certain info like ‘Please see our wedding website for more information about, directions, dress code, wishing well’. I don’t know, that probably doesn’t sound that good.
Any wording ideas?
Post # 3
If you want money, just don’t have a registry. Having a poem asking for money will just make me want to buy you a terrible gift. It doesn’t matter if it is on the website or on the invitation.
Post # 4
@Sarah_D: I’m assuming this is a wedding taking place outside the US? A place where including info on registries/wishing wells is common and accepted? If so, then I think your plan is fine (since everyone is expecting to probably be doing a wishing well anyway)
Post # 5
@bearlove: Yes I’m not from the US and it is very common. Every single wedding invitation I or my family has recieved had had a wishing well poem. So it’s not common in the US? Thanks for the reply 🙂
Post # 6
Generally wishing wells, poems and any mention of gifts at all is seen as very poor etiquette in the US and definitely on this site. But if it’s common where you live, go for it!
Post # 7
I wanted to include a wishing well poem also in our invitations, but i just think it is plain rude to do so. I live in Australia and yes wishing wells are common here. I just can’t bring it to myself to tell people to give us money.
I have been to a wedding where they did include it on their invitation, it was a theme wedding (country western) they worded it well but i still found it offensive. I gave them a gift of only $50.
Post # 8
@Toastymama: Yeah I’m Australian too 🙂 I don’t know why but that sort of thing has never bothered me. The circle of family and friends I have all seem to do it so I don’t think many people with have a problem. Although I have it worded as it is still up to them if they would like to bring a gift instead. And if some guests do, well that’s up to them. I don’t think weddings should be about seeing how much you can get. But if I don’t give them some idea (as in the poem) well I think they’ll all be confused. I think it takes a lot of the guess work out of it, as we have ben together over 9 and a half years, we live together. We don’t need things. I can see why some people would take offence to it…but it would not worry/ has not worried me at all when I recieve them.
Post # 9
@redheadem: Hi thanks…and oops. I didn’t want to offend anyone. It is very common here (Australia) well at least in my ‘circle’. To be honest I have never seen a wedding invitation where the couple didn’t have a wishing well. Though I’m sure there are people here that still do gifts. Wishing wells just seem more common. Not sure if it’s an age thing. Or just what you’re use to seeing. I know there is a lot of stigma around adding gift info into wedding invitations, but I thought it was ok as long as you don’t have it on the actual wedding invitation (a seperate card) it was ok. Not sure if that depends where you live though, or just the circle you run in.