(Closed) Wishing Well wording – HELP! Need an alternative rhyme

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Asking for cash in an invitation is impolite. Dressing it up in a cutesy rhyme doesn’t make it any classier.

The polite thing to do is to not mention gifts at all, and either don’t register or have a very tiny registry. If anyone asks you can tell them that you are saving for XXXXXXX.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You are not supposed to mention gifts in a wedding invitation. Perhaps you would consider putting it on your wedding website?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

They bought sheets, towels, pans, and such

And now their nest doesn’t need so/that much

But figure out what is considered proper etiquette in your circle and act accordingly. I once received an invite that mentioned giving money, and I was a bit off put by it… Yes, I did end up giving them a monetary gift, and no, I didn’t say anything to them about it. But I just thought it was a bit improper.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t mind invites asking for money at all. However I do hate poems. I think if you want cash just say so, the poems are a little childish imo.

There’s no great way to word it but maybe something along the lines of ‘We do not expect a gift and your presence is all we require. However if you insist on bringing something, a small contribution to our honeymoon would be gratefully received.’

Hopefully they will understand that you don’t expect anything but if they are going to gift you something anyway, that you don’t need more household goods.

Remember, some may be offended by this depending on where you’re from.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am including this poem in my invitations:

More than just kisses so far we’ve shared,

our home has been made with Love and Care

Most things we need we’ve already got

and in our home we can’t fit alot!

A wishing well we thought would be great, 

(but only if you wish to participate)

A gift of money is placed in the well

then make a wish but…shhh don’t tell!

Once we’ve replaced the old with the new.

We can look back and say it was thanks to you!

And in return for your kindness, we’re sure

that one day soon you will get what you wished for.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I know it’s cultural to have a wishing well at an Australian wedding, but why do you need to include the poem?

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Perhaps it’s considered acceptable to do this in some part of the world. but poem or not, if I received an invitation that asked for money, I’d decline the invite.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Cappugcino:  I wouldn’t invite someone that declined an invite based on my decision to include gift info in the invite. If you don’t like it, don’t get me a gift. Not to come is an overreaction.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

@ticatica:  How would you ever know.  No one that knows me in real life knows how strictly I follow etiquette.  If I decline (which is perfectly polite, so long as I do so promptly, and don’t make rude or passive aggressive comments while doing so) the host has no idea why.

None of the people whom I have declined the invitation of know that it is because of them asking for cash, using an absurd poem (like it will make a request for cash less offensive, or I am too stupid to catch on), or for being B-listed know that is the reason.  They only know that I cannot make it, due to another commitment.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@BigDay2012:  i think its tacky to put that in there besides everyne knows there will be a wishing well ; ) i was thinking the same as you were and i got grilled by my Fiance and family that it would be rude no matter ow nice you put it. sorry

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Cappugcino:  So if your best friend’s invitation had a poem like this (or something else you considered a flaw), you wouldn’t show? Really? It seems like you don’t really care at all for the couple if you’re going to NOT show up because of a minor thing like this.

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