Post # 1
I thought I’d post about how fantastic one of my bridesmaids has been.
Only one of my bridesmaids lives in the same city as me, and we work together.
We were out jogging when I asked her to be in my wedding party and she actually stopped and gave me a HUGE hug and said she’d be so honored.
Then she immediately asked what she could do to help.
So far she has:
- E-mailed my Future Mother-In-Law to help organize an engagement party.
- Called around to venues for a potential engagement party
- Started pulling out photos in magazines for bridesmaids dresses in my wedding colors.
- Called and made bridesmaids dress appointments
- Went to a totally kitschy bridal expo with me and made sure I went to all the booths to enter their raffles.
- Has signed up to come to at least 4 more bridal appointments with me THIS month
One of the bridal appointments is today and she went home sick from work yesterday. I texted her just now to see how she was feeling (since she’s still not in) and see if she needed anything since her apartment is near the office.
Her response: “I’m feeling better and heading to the office soon. Wanted to rest the morning, but don’t worry I’m still on for your dress appointment tonight.”
The wedding isn’t for almost a year and I can’t believe how much help she’s been already.
Anyway… just thought I’d share a happy bridesmaid story.
Post # 3
THats awesome!!! That is above and beyond IMO! If I were a bridesmaid I would try to be as helpful as possible without being overbearing….you learn a lot about being a bridesmaid when you are a bride!
Post # 4
I love this thread 🙂 I have some amazing bridesmaids too! And My Maid/Matron of Honor is absolutely a lifesaver!!!! I am so thankful for all of them. (I have 5 bridesmaids + MOH). They threw an AWESOME shower 2 weeks ago followed by an absolutely perfect bachelorette party. not to mention all but 12 of them live out of state! Even with that obstacle they have all been very supportive and have gone out of their way to make sure pre-wedding things go my way. I am sure I have picked the best group of girls to be with me on my wedding day and will make the day fun and as care-free as possible. No bad bridesmaid stories here! 🙂
Post # 5
I’m so happy to hear a positive story like that! And it’s so wonderful that you have a great friend whose helping you out as much as she is.
I have to say that I too am lucky enough to be surrounded by supportive people. Only one of my Bridesmaid or Best Man lives in NYC (actually she’s my roomate, so I do see her a lot), though I have to say her, as well as everyone else, has been super awesome and helpful. My Maid/Matron of Honor especially has taken on the job of doing all the scary things I hate to do–namely making phone calls–and took the time to call multiple bridal stores in the area and find one that’ll order my dress for ridiculously cheap. She’s also contacted DJs (a task I found to be especially daunting), given me ENDLESS opinions on the many many things I ask of her, and has not waived in her excitement at all.
Even though I feel like I’ve gotten the most help from her, I’m lucky that everyone else has been willing to help and be there for support (the biggest issue is figuring out what I need help with). But my favorite story of support…I managed to do my first dress shopping day with my entire wedding party and my mom, which was awesome. And everytime I came out in a new dress, everyone applauded. It was definitely very silly, and at the same time made me feel very special, and loved. 🙂
So yay for awesome and supportive people! They deserve 80 thumbs up! 🙂
Post # 6
@aaiimmee: It’s good to hear about supportive bridal parties.
She’s even started talking about my bachelorette party and bridal shower. She’s asking me what I want and then totally taking the reins.
I know all my other bridesmaids would be doing the same if they were here, but the rest are in school all across the east coast. And even they are e-mailing and asking what they can do.
I was already a bridesmaid in one of their weddings, and hope to be a part of the others so I can return the favor!
ETA: This is especailly heartwarming to me since my mom is on the other side of the country and can only come visit occasionally. So all the things I want to be doing with “mom” she’s been amazing at stepping up to the plate and doing with me.
Post # 7
Congratulations! It’s nice to hear a story like that and I hope the rest of your maids are the same way. From my experience as the bride and from being a maid in others, there is always one in the group that has be the pain.
Post # 8
@LY1923: All my maids have been my good friends for a long time. 3 are college friends (so 5+ years of friendship), one is my work friend (2.5 yrs) and one is my sister.
My sister might be a bit of a “pain” but I doubt it. She’s just shy and may take some time to warm up to the others, but all of my BMs have met each other before and get a long great.
I’m sure there may be some issues or disagreements, but my main goal with the wedding is for people to have a great time and to end the day married to my Fiance.
Post # 9
I don’t have a moh, because I couldn’t decide…. I love them all too much..
My cousin has called me to see exactly what I wanted for a bridesmaids shower/bachelorette party. I mentioned something abt a spa day and she instantly agreed.
The same cousin called me to say that she had found the most perfect bm dresses at Ann Taylor’s for 26 on sale and bought them for her and I gave her the money to buy them for my sister….
The same cousin calls me all the time to say how awesome it is that I took the time to find hotel rooms for my guests at the best rates, how I let them pick out their own dresses and how excited she will be to wear it again, and how thoughtful the brunch wedding is because my guests still get to enjoy their weekend after my wedding.
My fsil (another bm) is coming to the wedding city three days early to help with last minute things.
My little sister (third bm) is sooo excited and calls me about her shoe choices (I love shoes!!!) And she just keeps saying I want the shoes to be perfect. Her son is also one of my ring bearers and she calls me about what I want him to wear and basically she has just been giddy and excited.
I am lucky to say that I haven’t had any crazy bridal party moments. Everyone has been amazing.
Post # 10
My Maid/Matron of Honor was so awesome! Not only did she made my veil and flew to Vegas for my bachlorette party. In my pro pics there’s a picture of her fixing a curl in my hair as I was facing talking to my Husband! I never knew that she did that!
Post # 11
That is wonderful! Yay for your fabulous bridesmaids and good for you for making a point to show her off to everyone. Very nice!
Post # 12
I’m another super lucky one!
Maid/Matron of Honor: lives across the country from me but we chat daily about wedding stuff and she is endlessly interested and asking good questions and helping me online research. She is also co-hosting my shower with my mom (challenging from over a thousand miles/way!) and planning a bachelorette party for me MLK weekend so she can spend three whole days up here!
BM-K: also non-local but she came to my city to go bridesmaid dress shopping and checks in with me about how things are going. She is attending my shower and flying in for my bachelorette too, and she has offered to take the week before my wedding off to fly in and help me with last minute projects
BM-A: the only local bridesmaid, went bm dress shopping, asks me how its going, has helped me with a few nights of crafting, is helping Maid/Matron of Honor to organize the bachelorette (being the only local one), and also bought me my wedding shoes without me knowing it because she knew I loved them but was hemming and hawing over the price!
Seriously, how did I get so lucky?
Post # 13
You are SO lucky. While I loved one of my three girls during planning, she’s under 20 and still in school so really couldn’t do much for me. The other two sucked and I still resent them. You obviously know how great you have it, let her know! 🙂
Post # 14
@CaraMia10: Oh I am letting her know. I’m treating her to a manicure tonight if she’ll let me.
Post # 15
That’s awesome! That is how bridesmaids are supposed to make you feel. So far my girls have been amazing even though we’ve got a long engagement to go. The day after I called all of my friends to share the engagement news, one of my bridesmaids (but she didn’t know it, we hadn’t selected our Bridal Party yet) brought me 3 bridal magazines and a planning book and the sweetest card ever. Now that themes/colors/plans are starting to come along, one of my other maids called from her vacation telling me that she’d found (and purchased) some peacock feathers since they’re in my theme! All of them keep checking in and offering good ideas or great deals, etc. It’s nice to hear ‘best bridesmaids’ stories sometimes, because some of the bad bridesmaids stories have been frightening!