(Closed) With no wedding or engagement ring do guys presume you are fair game

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Purplefurrydice:  Sorry friend, men who are pigs are pigs regardless. I swear I get “looks” when I’m WITH my SO more often than not with him. 

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I definitely got hit on more when I was engaged both times.

Post # 19
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yeah most dudes don’t even notice the ring, and apparently even if they do, it doesn’t matter. I get hit on exactly as often with it as without. As soon as I detect attraction I take the first possibly opportunity in the conversation to go “OH HEY THAT REMINDS OF MY FIANCE WHO I AM ABOUT TO MARRY AND AM IN LOVE WITH AND HAVE NO INTEREST IN CHEATING ON.” (well not exactly but you get the idea.)

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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@BeachBride2014:  You’re exactly right. The comment about the skirt bothered me, as well.

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

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@badabing88:  I agree I notice with an engagement ring (and even now with a wedding ring) guys either see it and don’t Care or are truly oblivious and don’t even notice I’m wearing a ring. I dunno but it’s weird

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I guess I’m the only one who notices a difference? I wear my ring off and on, and I notice a BIG difference, a lot less guys hitting on me when I wear it. And if they don’t notice it at first, I flash it, and it usually does the trick.

Before I was engaged, even if I didn’t have a Boyfriend or Best Friend, I would tell creepy guys I was married. Only a couple times did they mention they didn’t see a ring. Most guys just took my word for it.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Purplefurrydice:  You know what works great? Leather motorcycle jacket. When people see me and Fiance together they assume we’re married with or without the rings (they assumed when I was waiting too and it drove me nuts). But when I’m alone the ring doesn’t help. But like I said the biker jacket is a fantastic deterrent. I also get hit on less when I wear high heels… but that might be because I’m 6’2” in high heels and most of the guys around here are 5’10”. I guess what I’ve found is if you look intimidating enough nobody bothers you.

Post # 24
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

In my area it doesnt matter if you wear a ring or not. Men will always hit on you.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

Men ignored me before I was engaged, before I was married, and they still ignore me now that I’m married. I can’t say I understand the problem, though I’ve heard that the types of folks who will approach you in either scenario will vary.

If you’re that freakin’ hot, I don’t think a ring is going to ward it off much. Can I get your number? ^_~

Post # 27
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Helper bee

Yes!!! Women too lol And I’m straight smh Beijg hit on by both is really annoying but hilarious sometimes because they are all like  “Well I don’t see a ring! ” and I’m like “So what! Back off!!”

Post # 28
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699 posts
Busy bee

@Purplefurrydice:  No, no one has said anything….dumb guys lol, i so want that symbol!!!!!!!

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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@Purplefurrydice:  I find this extremely rude too. Even if I was somehow interested, do you think you come off as a “good guy” by hitting on someone who tells you they have a bf?

All this tells me is that you have no respect for relationships and would cheat in yours too! Gross

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Purplefurrydice:  I actually don’t think men pay much attention to rings anyway, unless you’re waving it in their face or point it out. But I’d venture to say that if these crude men are hitting on you, a ring wouldn’t deter them either way!

Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’ve been hit on both with and without the ring.  And yes, they saw the ring, and no, they didn’t care.  I wasn’t offended before I had the ring, because they had no way to know until I said something.  Now I just flash the ring and ask if they need their eyes checked.

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