(Closed) Without reliving this weekend's drama…

posted 5 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
Member
4327 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I’d suggest you add a poll. Not everyone wants to draw attention to themselves. But I’ll raise my hand and say I want one in particular to be removed.

Post # 4
Member
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Yeah sometimes you over share, you figure you don’t know these people so .. you let loose.  Then the next day, after you’ve had time to think about it, you want it deleted.  But I asked this in another thread, I thought after this weekend, you can still read the cached posts.

Post # 5
Hostess
11177 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

i can’t think of anything off the top of my head but who knows. After being on WB for a while you might post a thread or two that maybe should have been kept to oneself.

with all the drama I am sure bees will be a bit more careful, at least for a while.

The thing is despite trying to remain neutral and posting things that I wouldn’t consider inflammatory apparently there are those that might disagree. For the sake of any headaches those types of threads would be nice to remove. 

Post # 6
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4466 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I personally do not, although I have one thread about my MIL that literally tiptoes to the brink of impropriety, and I kept it that way to avoid regret. When I have moved on here I will also take down all my pictures and someone will have a heck of a time connecting me to anything based on my threads started. If someone were to dig all the way into my hundreds of pages of posts I made on other threads, perhaps you would find a small tidbit about my life, but I’m unconcerned about that. With that being said, I guess if I could delete threads I would delete the one about my MIL, just cuz why keep it up? 

Post # 7
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3126 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

While it is somewhat embarassing when I have started a thread that gets no responses, there is nothing Iwould want deleted.

Post # 8
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10714 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh yeah I have 1 I really wish wasn’t there =/ maybe 2.

Post # 9
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2282 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Thread Regret is a great way to describe it. 

I’ve never been much of one to sound off without thinking about it first – I’m the person who waits until morning before replying to an upsetting email or who waits until I’m calm to talk about something emotional. But I’ve posted something and then realized quickly that it didn’t look on a post the way it had sounded in my head, and deleted it (fortunately, I caught it within the hour of edit time). And most of us at one point or another on the Bee have done a little wine-soaked posting that looked a lot less dignified in the morning.

I wish we had the ability to, if not delete posts or threads, at least do our own moderation – to be able to take out problematic wording and change it to [post self-moderated for provoking content] or something. 

ETA: I confess I also wish I could go back and fix all the typos I’ve found in previous posts of mine, because I think it’s really embarrassing  how bad I am at proofing my own posts while I’m posting them. Engish Professor Fail Frown

Post # 10
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118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Let’s be real: this is the Internet. You have to be prepared for everything and anything you post to become public knowledge and that your Internet footprint can be found unless you are extremely careful. If you wouldn’t want everyone knowing, DON’T FREAKING POST IT. That includes identifying details, juicy tidbits about your life, etcetera. 

I don’t necessarily disagree about the need to have deletion privileges, but come on! You can be as anonymous or unanonymous on the Internet as you want–but it’s up to you to protect yourself. 

Post # 11
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963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think the arguments for deleting threads are pretty naive. Once you put something on the Internet, you just have to assume it’s there forever. For example, I use another forum that allows deletion. Whenever a dramatic or juicy thread comes up, some posters will take screenshots of the thread before it gets deleted (or right after using caches). They re-post these screenshots in different forums or different boards of the same forum to continue discussing the drama and making fun of the OP. Obviously this doesn’t happen to every thread, but it is enough to show that deletion isn’t really worth much at all. That’s not even mentioning the issues with caching and Google where the thread can stick around for a while after deletion and people can access it or copy it during that time.

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