(Closed) Woah. It like, really works!

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t understand . . . was he testing you or something?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@EleanorRigby: That’s what I thought!  Was he just waiting for the right response to take you out?  LOL, I know it goes against the point, but that would piss me off.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

lol this made me smile! good for you!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

To be honest with you, I don’t think that’s ok….

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Lol – awesome!  Not only are you happier, but your blood pressure is probably down, too!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think it is great that you did not get upset 🙂 

But- for me personally- allowing someone to “test me” and then reward me… is sort of… condescending somehow.  I just don’t think it exudes confidence, which is what I understand to be the lesson of WMMB (although I have never read it).

But, I don’t know your relationship… it was sort of just a knee-jerk reaction.

Post # 11
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Honey bee

I’m not going to be helpful here, I’m just going to crash and ask what WMMB is? I googled it and (because of my zip code, in WI) it came up with “Wisconsin Milk Marketing Board”.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Hahaha, love the WI result.  It’s a book, “Why Men Marry Bitches”

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

GOOD FOR YOU!!!

half way through reading your post, i was like, uh oh…he did a test on her… and for me personally testing is something that i wouldn’t accept.

but once ive finished reading the whole thing i could understand where you two coming from. you are VERY young and you are working on this specific problem which you are improving!

keep up your good work and you’ll find yourself become a mature lovely young lady!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I have to agree with a few of the previous posters and say that I would be offended if my husband did something like that.  I’d feel like a child or a puppy who does something right and then gets a treat, not like an adult who makes my own decisions.  It would strike me as condescending.  Obviously, it’s great that you didn’t get upset about that, and I think that’s great progress!  I just think him testing you is weird.  Couldn’t he just wait until a real situation like this came up and see how you responded?

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

i am so proud of you for working on being patient and understanding.

however, i am not a fan of his “testing” you and basing your plans on how you react. 

these tests and games that people play in relationships seem so petty and shallow to me.  i just don’t get them, and i sure as heck can’t play them.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee

That book is incredible. It makes so much sense, and it’s so easy: Just be yourself. Have fun. Do the hobbies and things you enjoyed doing before you and your S.O. started dating, don’t get upset over little things. The result? He’ll want you even MORE because you’re independant and strong. Men really love that in a woman. Just don’t be available 24/7 for him. Make him wonder sometimes. You have a life too, you know…

I’ve been doing this for the past few weeks and let me tell you… WOW. Example: Last night J was late coming home from work AGAIN. Normally I’d be angry and text him cuz i’ve already made dinner and it’s sitting there getting cold. But not this week. I held off. Last night he called me 4 times, and left TWO voicemails saying that he’d be late again. I didn’t get the messages until an hour later. I called him back and played it cool. When he came home, he was very appreciative and loving. It was fantastic.

Gwen.

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