- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
I’ve been with my guy for 2 & 1/2 years, 1 & 1/2 years living together. We’re both 30 years old and though he was the first to bring up marriage only a year into our relationship….I seemed to wonder what was holding him back from proposing about 2 years in. Everything seemed to fit: We’re both at a “proper” age, we both want to be married, jobs and finances are fine. What gives????
I could tell I was stressing him out with all of my frustrated vents, telling him I didn’t understand why we couldn’t just get engaged, basically just being a guy’s nightmare. He told me my anxiety was putting him off and it was stressing him out and always stated “I’m just not ready.” He had alluded that a proposal was not that close and might even be a year off.
So after some failed attempts at the shut-it-up pacts I actually woke up one day and felt very chill about it all. “Hey, if it happens, it happens.” I said to myself. I just had this different attitude and I have no idea where it came from. Almost immediately he started bringing up marriage..just mentioning it here or there and I was always super non-chalant about it or changed the subject. 5 weeks later (or last week) I became engaged!
I asked him what changed and he said “2 weeks ago I realized you stopped bringing it up, I had a chance to really think about things, stress and worry free, with no pressure and it took me all of 20 minutes to call the jeweler and get the ring started.”
Well….that was easy.