(Closed) Woman at work blatantly asks to be included in my wedding?!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1018 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Yikes! I’m so sorry she’s put you in this position. So awkward.

Post # 4
942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

hahahaha whack job!!! Sorry bee you have to deal with this, but you did well. This seems like the type of person you just have to bluntly say no to, lose a ‘friendship’ over, and be done with her! She’s too much!!

Post # 5
2250 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Wow, so strange!! I think you handled it perfectly. Because both you and your mother have to work with her, it’s a delicate situation… At some point, you may have to be really blunt with her, but hopefully she will take a hint and it won’t come to that.

Post # 6
739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@CharleighT:  No, I can’t say that it’s a normal thing…. I don’t think I’ve ever heard of someone ASKING to be involved in a wedding!! 

Hang in there. This is obviously a tough situation, and you’ll have to find a way to muddle through. At least you have your mom who understands and knows this woman! So you can talk to her about your frustrations and she understands exactly what you mean. 

Post # 7
748 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Sounds like a nutjob and a manipulative bully. Just ignore her.

Post # 8
3261 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@CharleighT: “I really appreciate your support and enthusiasm! I’m really enjoying just being engaged and don’t want to stress out with planning just yet. That being said, we did a preliminary guest list of just our families and we are already over 100 guests so we don’t know what we’re doing about our close friends and work friends yet. I know we will have a lot of tough decisions to make but we decided not to think about our guest list until we have a venue and a max capacity. Thank you again for your support!”

This ish right HERE^^^^. *bows down*


Post # 10
1846 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Wow.. How can someone be so socialy clueless? If she didn’t like it when people did it to her, why is she doing it to you?! I’m so confused!!! 

Sorry OP, what an awkward situation!

Post # 12
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

awkward!!!! I dont even know what to begin to tell you after this email. I would only suggest keep being humble towards her in your replies and in person but if needed, stick to your guns and dont back down. Idc how nice she is. She is old enough to know what is acceptable and not….good luck, she is truly a character!


Post # 13
322 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Restaurant

That is really crazy!

People like this really just need to be put in their place.  Just be blunt with her – tell her she is not a close friend and will not be involved in any part of the wedding process.  If she starts to make your work life difficult because of the rejection, hopefully you have a supervisor or manager you can go to to help.  This is what I would do, because I have been in this kind of situation before with over-the-line people and work and I always wished I would have just stopped the BS in the beginning.  If you try to be nice, it could get worse.

Your other option could be to play it nice.  Say, “Okay, thanks for your suggestions/support” but never mention anything to her about dates or anything else for that matter.  She sounds scary, though.  She might just catch wind and show up uninvited!

Post # 14
115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

It sounds like it went the best it could’ve based on her email.  If she continues to pressure, just blame it on capacity/budget/intimate wedding.

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