Post # 1
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle
For some background info: my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 and a half years. We’ve always talked about getting married, and last year we bought a house together. Last month he asked my family’s permission to marry me and purchased an engagement ring. However, he keeps dropping hints about how HE wants ME to be more romantic. He’s also hinted that if I were to propose to him, he would accept. I know the exact ring he wants too.
So I was thinking about doing the following:
A sexy pin-up photoshoot where I’m dressed either all in white bridal lingerie OR black lingerie with a sexy long black veil (he likes me better in black). I was thinking about either purchasing the ring he wants (meteorite and dinosaur bone BALLER) and posing with it in shoots, or having like a sign that says “will you…” and panties that say “Marry Me?” on the ass I think. Maybe a combination of both?
What do you gals think of the role reversal here? I’ve never really done anything to surprise my guy or knock his socks off… since I know he wants to get married, has the ring and the permission from my fam (which is really the only thing that I cared about), do you think it would be emasculating if I proposed to him?
Post # 3
@FutureDrAtkins: what if he’s planning something?! since you know he has the ring and has asked permission, i’d at least wait a tick before doing anything drastic. maybe in a few months and after a couple of conversations about what is taking him so long, you could do it.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
Sorry, I voted “yes” but must have glossed over the part where you said he has already asked your parents’ permission and bought your engagement ring! I don’t know how you could get any more clear that he is planning to propose to you soon!!
Post # 5
@FutureDrAtkins: I think it’s sweet! In general, I hate the gender prejudice that says men have to propose to women. However, be careful, you don’t want to step on his toes if he’s got a big plan coming!
Post # 6
He did say if you proposed he would accept…however he also has the ring which makes me think he’s planning something and I would hate to ruin his surprise! Maybe do the shoot (I love the idea) but have the sign/undies say something more like “Whenever you’re ready, the answer is yes” or something to that affect so you’re not proposing persay? I dunno…
Post # 7
Eh..he’s bought the ring and has asked permission from your parents, so it would seem that he’s got something in the works. What a bummer for him if he had some grand plan that he was working on and you jumped in and proposed! I mean not that your proposal would be the downer, but that he wouldn’t get to make the big gesture and sweep you off your feet. Not dissing any girls who have done the role reversal, but I just feel like it’s the guy’s role to take on, ya know? But I tend to be slightly old fashioned 😉
If he’s wanting you to be more romantic, your pinup idea sounds great…just without the proposal stuff in there! Or you could cook him his favorite meal wearing only an apron and high heels and tell him he’s not allowed to touch you until he’s done eating. Or plan a sweet little day out and about doing some of his favorite things. It would really depend on how the two of you define “romantic” but that sounds like more of what he’s asking of you…not necessarily a proposal.
Post # 8
I don’t really care who proposes to whom, but it looks like he’s already planning something, so I’d just let him go for it.
And it’s probably just me, but “I proposed to him with the words ‘marry me?’ on my butt” doesn’t sound like a romantic or even cute proposal story. If you want to go for it, maybe something less difficult to recount would be better.
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle
Thanks for all the feedback ladies. The thing is, he’s been blantantly obvious with me that he has literally NOTHING planned. The ring has been sitting in the box in his closet since he got it in March. I don’t *think* he’s lying about this because when he was a little tipsy last weekend he told me he has no idea how to propose and that he’s really not even thinking about it. Then he mentioned that I should just propose to him.
As far as being romantic goes I really try to be! We’ve been taking trips nearly every weekend and I keep thinking this is the weekend he’ll propose! But it never happens. That’s why I straight up asked him last weekend if he was planning anything and I got a firm NO.
Also, I cook for him everyday. I even started doing yardwork and cutting the grass in hopes he would appreciate that! I’m literally trying my best to show him how much I love him so he’ll get this over with, because ever since I knew he bought the ring I have been so distracted.
Maybe I’ll just do a sexy photoshoot (without the proposal part to it) and if that doesn’t work then I honestly don’t know what will…
Post # 10
Sounds great, but I wouldn’t propose to him with his wedding band, that’s for the wedding. I’d suggest a mangagement ring or gift of some kind (e.g. watch).
Post # 11
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle
@joya_aspera Good idea… but this is the only piece of jewelry I’ve ever seen him get excited about. He doesn’t wear jewelry or watches. If I got him anything it would just be something for his computer I guess… but I wouldn’t know how to buy it without his help :/
Post # 12
I definitely think it would emasculate him. I know it’s hard waiting. I was in the same situation you were in, but I think you should just suck it up and wait. At least you know he has the ring. That means it should probably happen soon.
Post # 13
Hmmm…I’d do the sxy photoshoot as you imagined it, but don’t give it to him. Wait to see if he has a proposal planned, and if he does, then you can present him with the album and ring following his proposal to you. That way, you will have proposed to each other!
But if he continues to honestly have nothing planned, then go ahead and propose to him. Give him a heads up and say, “remember when you said you’d like it if I proposed? Are you sure?” That should signal to you whether he actually has nothing planned, and the ball is in your court.
Post # 14
@FutureDrAtkins: I LLLLLLOOOOOVE your idea. It’s adorable and sexy and sweet! So I voted yes. After reading what other posters said, though, maybe he has something planned… so now I’m torn haha.
Post # 15
@FutureDrAtkins: I wouldn’t do it, but I’m traditional in that way. Sounds like he already knows you’re ready, so I would wait until he felt ready to (you’ll know that when he asks). I think because I follow the traditional gender roles in this case, it just feels pushy to me. But different things work for different people 🙂
Post # 16
Do it!!!!!!!!!! Why do we always let the men have all the fun planning a proposal?!?