Post # 1
Just watching some daytime telly and there’s this story on, about a woman who still breatfeed’s her 5 year old daughter, and says she will do it until 10 or older.
Obviously there are quite a few of these kinds of stories around, just this one caught my attention.
My thoughts: I feel bad because the child will almost certainly be a target of major bullying shen she enters school, especially if this comtinues until the age of 10 or more.
I also think it stops being neccessary after 3 years (WHO recommends this actually). I think that would be my max though, and I will more than likely express for the last 1-1.5 of those years if I and the child continue to feel the need to breastfeed.
I also think, because she will be quite mature when she stops, I would be worried about the psychological side of things, though obviously every child will take on such an experience differently.
Also, it just makes me “ick”.
Post # 3
Thats just nasty. zi know my mom breastfed my brother until he was 3, and as his older sister I have to say I found that weird. I was about 5 at the time too.
Post # 4
That’s why I reckon if I decided to go by the guidelines, I wouldn’t have them erm, latch on, after 1.5 years old. If they need it, they can drink from a damn bottle hahaha
Post # 5
@FutureMrsHallam: It isn’t neccessary in many situations.
Post # 6
I am planning on breast feeding until 18 months or so, maybe 24, and if I feel like I want to continue I think I would just pump. Why can’t a five year old drink out of a glass ….?
Post # 7
I agree with breast feeding for as long as baby, mom and Dr think it healthy. The choice word being BABY. I consider toddlers babies, too, but I would not personally breast feed once my child goes on into school. I think my cut off will be 2 years old, the last year being off the “tap” so to speak. To each their own, I suppose. 10 is a little excessive to me, though.
Post # 8
My husband was breastfed until almost six. So weird, and so uncomfortable. Most certainly will not last that long with my children.
Post # 9
It’s not a choice that I agree with, but honestly, it’s her kid and it’s her tits. Who am I to say what she’s allowed to do with them, and how long she should do it. Mothers who are into the emotional connection of breastfeeding their children are usually SUPER into it, in a no amount of me going “Ewwwwww. You’re using your breast like you are meant to for a longer period than I feel comfortable with! Please feed your child from a cow’s breast like the rest of us.” is really going to change their mind.
There are a lot worse things you can do for your child.
Post # 10
My boyfriend and I have chatted about this. I’m definitely a firm believer in breast feeding if you can, but I’ve never been in the situation so I didn’t really know where I stood on drawing the line.
He put it, in clear man language, like this: you stop once your child is old enough that he’s looking you in the eye and going “ok mom, time to have some boob milk” The point at which they’re aware of enough language and objects that they’re aware that they’re sucking on moms breast, then he thinks It should stop. That would make kids 2-3 ish, which I think is appropriate, and over time I’ve come to decide that I’m pretty sure I agree with his ideas!
Post # 11
I knew a woman like this when my own kids were little… she was breastfeeding them beyond their being toddlers (3, 4, 5 sort of age)
It was strange for sure. Here was this child who was toilet trained, running around, talking, and eating regular food, but yet coming to Mommy to “latch on”
And YES they were asking outright for the Boob … I cannot recall the “pet word” but they clearly were asking by name for what they wanted in a fully constructed gramatically correct sentence !!
Honestly, I don’t know who had the bigger issue… Mom for not cutting them off… or the child for not “maturing past this” (altho for sure that was Mom’s fault)
I saw it as sort of equivalent to a kid sucking their thumb… only this was suckling a breast.
At 4 and 5 (and in Kindergarten) this was very much in my mind’s eye going to be an issue as this was becoming a “Mommy’s Child” and not learning to mature in a way that is necessary for proper mental health IMO
And ya, I can only imagine the ridicule this kid must have faced. Kids can be mean. I am certain this child suffered needlessly
IMO one of the most important roles of being a Parent is bestowing independence on your kids as age appropriate… so as to make sure they grow-up / mature adequately… so that by the time they are 18 and ready to leave home, they have all the skills required. This is a building block process… and begins before they ever head off to Nursery School… and continues on to High School Graduation.
The Mom you talk of (and the one in my example) I feel is doing their kids a great diservice !!
Post # 12
I saw a documentary years ago about this woman that breastfed her two daughters until they were about 7 or something. Even after she stopped, they still begged for it. I remember one (I think it was her 11th birthday or something) said that her birthday wish was to breastfeed one last time.
I mean, to each their own… But yeah, not for me. I dont think I’d breastfeed any longer than 2.5ish.
Post # 13
Game of Thrones Lysa anyone? That’s just crazy weird.
Post # 14
@FutureMrsHallam: Yeah, no. If the child is old enough to talk, have teeth, and remember, then the child is old enough to stop knowing what my breasts look like. Just no.
Post # 15
To each their own, but it’s not for me.
Post # 16
IMO Breastfeeding is to suppy nurishment for BABIES that cannot eat solid foods. I’d say between 6-12 months time to wean them off. I plan on breastfeeding and thats my plan.