(Closed) Woman want to breastfeed 5yo girl until she is 10 or more…

posted 7 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: When do you think is an appropriate age to stop breastfeeding?

    I have no opinion either way.

    6 months

    6-12 months

    1-2 years

    2-3 years

    3-4 years

    4-5 years

    Whenever they get too many teeth - ouch!

    Whenever the child decides not to.

  • Post # 62
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    Bumble Beekeeper
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    …. I have to say that I think the idea of it being somehow sexualised or likely to give the child a complex is bizarre, however. To be honest, that says more about people who think that way than it does about a woman who wants to breastfeed her 3 1/2 year old.

    It’s rather like these people who go mental if you take photographs or make videos in public, anywhere near children. Their argument: I don’t know you! You could be taking these pictures and using them for child porn! My argument: These kids are fully clothed. If you think there’s something sexual about your obese four year old, there’s something wrong with YOU, not the photographer.

    Post # 63
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    Honey bee

    10?? That’s psychotic.

    Post # 64
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    Sugar bee
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    I read an article about breastfeeding that compared humans to other great apes. The average time for a primate of our size to breastfeed is 2-3 years, which seems to be in line with most people’s comments.

    Also, I was born premature, and my mother never produced breastmilk. My immune system may not be the best (I seem to catch everything) but I think I turned out pretty well. It certainly didn’t affect my brain development as I graduated form college with honors.

    Post # 65
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    Sugar Beekeeper
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    Um, at age 10 I was getting ready to start my period. If I can almost get pregnant and breastfeed a baby myself, i’m TOO OLD to be breastfeed. Wowzers.

    Post # 66
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    @Eckle:  That’s interesting – my coworker just had her baby 3 months early and produced breastmilk/pumped for the first 2 months and now her baby is finally able to latch and feed on its own. How early were you born?

    Post # 67
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    @crayfish:  I was 5 weeks premature. My mom tried, but she never was able to produce breastmilk so I was a formula baby. She is smaller busted, I have no idea if that has anything to do with it. My mom also had some other reproductive complications that have resulted in me being an only child among other things. There may have been something wrong with her breasts as she has had several benign lumps removed through out my childhood. In fact she was recently diagnosed with another lump, the doctors are fairly sure it’s not cancer but they haven’t biopsied it to actually find out :/

    Post # 68
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    Bumble bee
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    @drlolaz:  you mean breast milk being the only think you could survive solely on? I saw it in a science show, I will find a link to some kind f evidence though.

    i just like to clarify, I was just pointin out a fact, not suggesting that breast feeding until ten is okay with me. Animals stop nursing after a period of time and so do we. I’m just suggesting that the period of time that is “right” is subjective. We do not know for a fact that it’s unhealthy to breast feed for longer periods of time, we’ve just decided what we like and now we’re sayig that everyone who believes differently is wrong. Not very fair, in my opinion!! 

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    @lalalyanne:  “We do not know for a fact that it’s unhealthy to breast feed for longer periods of time, we’ve just decided what we like and now we’re sayig that everyone who believes differently is wrong. Not very fair, in my opinion!! “

    THIS. You know, I do think it’s frickin’ weird to breastfeed 10 year olds, and also that this seems to me to be the act of a very co-dependant mother (I find it odd that she would “need to be needed” so much by an older child, who should be becoming far more independent at that stage). However, the idea that she’s somehow getting sexual satisfaction from it comes from a society obsessed with sex, IMO. Boobs are not just for sex, guys.

    By all means, be creeped out by the 10 year old getting breastmilk, but why the critique of the 3 year old? There are plenty of cultures where women breastfeed until they have a new baby… and if there are 3 or 4 years between births then they will keep doing it. Even at that age, the milk is an excellent supplementary food in places in which adult nutrition may be hard to come by. It just seems like we choose the age at which it is appropriate to stop in such an arbitrary way.

    Post # 70
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    Bumble bee
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    @Rachel631:  Thank you!! I’m glad someone gets what I’m driving at!

    Post # 71
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    @Eckle:  Oh no! I’m so sorry to hear about that! I don’t have first hand experience with this, so i’m just really curious about how it works. I was really suprised she was able to breast feed given how early the baby was!

    Post # 72
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    Sugar bee
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    It’s like the movie Grown Ups.

    “Cute kid…how old is he?”

    “48 months.”

    …………………………

    Post # 73
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    Sugar bee
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    @Eckle:  Sorry to hear about your mom. About you being premature…I met this lady who had a baby recently who was about the same, 5 weeks premature I think, and she said she only had a small amount of milk, like it only lasted a couple of days. And she said it was because her baby was premature, I wonder if that’s what happened with your mom? I mean I don’t know anything about all that, just a thought. And this lady had huge boobs, if that matters.

    Post # 74
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    Honey bee
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    Yuck. 

    I lasted < 2 weeks breastfeeding due to low supply, latch issues, sheer exhaustion, etc. But I planned to Boyfriend or Best Friend for about a year. I don’t see the necessity beyond that.

    Post # 75
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    @Rachel631:  Thank you! Beautifully said. I know many children who were nursed for what people in our society (but not many others) consider “extended” periods of time (3, 4 years) and I can say with confidence that none of their mothers are emotionally messed up, have issues with co-dependency, or didn’t want to let their children grow up normally. I can also say  that all of the children are bright, confident, and independent.

    My own son was breastfed until he was about 3. We are a dairy intolerant family, so cows’ milk was not an option, and I was not comfortable replacing it with soy, which I feel is fine in small quantities but am less okay with in large ones. Pumping did not work for me.

    Some people don’t seem to realize that weaning is a gradual process. Most moms who say “my child nursed until he/she was 2” don’t mean “and ate nothing, and I refused to let him/her use a cup.” They mean “my child still nurses two or three times a day, often just before nap time and bedtime.” These kids are eating fruits and veggies and other foods in ADDITION to breastmilk.

    Also, saying “as soon as my kid can ask for it, he’s too old” sounds, frankly, pretty bizarre to me. When your child can ask for juice or a sandwich, does than mean no more of those things, either?

    Post # 76
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    @Jijitattoo:  Totally! I mean, I know that my Mum breastfed for about 5 years continuously. She had me and my brother 18 months apart. I know that I was still being fed now and then when he was past a year old. That doesn’t mean I wasn’t being fed veg, and fruit, and drinking from a cup as well.

    Most kids are weaned completely before they go to school at 4 or 5, but I think it’s as much a matter of convenience as anything else. As I say, I have no intention of doing this “perfect parent” martyrdom thing. If I find it more convenient to pump from day 1, I will. And my future kids will definitely be weaned before they go to preschool because I’m not faffing about with feeds for that long, especially when it’s more convenient to give them a sandwich, and the nutritional benefits for them are tailing off. In between? Heck, I’ll do the best I can, and everyone else can put up or shut up.

    I am planning on starting TTC soon, but this I know already… perfect parenthood is a myth designed to sell us stuff.

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