(Closed) Women cry around four times more often than men – Any input?

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Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Drizzle:  “This may be unpopular, but I hate it when women cry at work.”

I absolutely agree. For as big of a crier as I am, I can only remember crying at work 3 times in my life, and I made sure to do it in private where no one would know. Then I composed myself and got back to work. I’ve seen women bawl during meetings with upper management. It makes me cringe.

Post # 32
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

I definitely don’t cry that much. I cry more now as I’ve gotten older though, maybe once every month or two, if that. Before, I could go years without a single tear. I’m much more emotional now. 

I’ve never seen Darling Husband full on cry. Tear up, perhaps a could times, but never cry.

ETA: Darling Husband did tell me he cried recently, I just wasn’t there. 

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 1 month ago by  SithLady.
Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

Drizzle:  I’m that work crier. I know it’s embarassing and unprofessional, unfortunately I just have a very hard time holding it in when I’m upset or frustrated. It’s not something I can control to be honest and it is humiliating. For me it has rarely been just because of simple feedback, but I’ve worked in some customer service positions before where customers will berate you, I’ve also had times where a lot going on in my personal life mixed with feedback at work that led to frustration which ultimately led to tears. In my last position I cried in front of a bunch of people and it still makes me cringe and feel stupid almost a year later, if I could control it you better believe I would. 

Post # 34
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701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

I would have thought the difference would have been much bigger! YAY for Estrogen, I cry at everything the week I’m ovulating, seriously EVERYTHING! Sometimes I’ll think about the fact that I cry and it makes me cry. When I went off the pill it took about 10 months for my hormones to stabilize & I cried daily for those 10 months. Usually it was for really valid reasons like the cute puppy down the street, or the fact that I’d forgotten to pack croutons for my salad!

Post # 35
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Bumble bee

Drizzle: I’m of this opinion as well. It’s unprofessional and embarassing. I’ve seen women cry at work in meetings, when they receive honest but harsh criticism, critical client feedback, etc. If you absolutely need to, excuse yourself, go bawl in the bathroom and come back in when you collect yourself.

I completely understand that sme of us are more emotional than others (hell, I’m 16 weeks pregnant and I was already one of those emotional women before I got pregnant – I cry over everything but at work, I think I owe it to myself and my colleagues to handle myself in a manner that allows people to interact with me without having to step on eggshells.

It really bothers me when women cry and get defensive at work. Unless you’re being verbally abused or harassed, there is a time and place for that and an office is not it.

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Fi and I are really similar and because of certain circumstances in our life we both spent a lot of years just stuffing our feelings away and never shedding tears….now that we’ve both come to really healthy places in our lives we both cry more often because we are finally able to feel things without needing to dismiss them.

I cry ALL the time. Anything makes me cry….happy things, sad things, when I’m frustrated, when I’m tired. hahaha. maybe every couple weeks. Especially if I’m pmsing

Fi cries every so often. If he’s really moved by something. Once in church and twice with me when I’ve done something really special for him or reading cards that I’ve written him.

Post # 37
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Blushing bee

I cry at least a couple times a week if not more. I am a pretty emotional person though and let too many little things get to me.

I’ve only seen my SO cry once and that was when his father passed away.. understandably..

Post # 38
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Bumble bee

Every time I’m worked up about something. 

Ever. Single. Time.

S.O and I are arguing about something? 

Cry. 

Really frustrated about something? 

Cry. 

Yet, I NEVER cry when I’m sad. At all. It’s like my brain misfires when I’m frustrated, but when my childhood dog dies, my brain is all like: “Yo, is cool.” 

It’s the most frustrating thing, and I try so hard not to cry, but it’s virtually impossible.

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