(Closed) women in your 30s getting/got married for the first time (how are you feeling?

posted 5 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 4
1400 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m 33 and getting married in 2 months. We’re having a pretty huge wedding and I don’t feel silly about it at all. You only get to do it once (hopefully) and everyone deserves to have their big day.

So have your day girl! And do it up as fancy and over the top as you want. You’ve waited a long time for this awesome day!

Post # 5
1038 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m 34 and having a smaller wedding.  But…that is what I’ve always wanted, even when I was younger.  I’ve always known I wanted a beach wedding.  Now I’m having it in less than 3 months. 


Let yourself be as excited as you want to be and have the wedding you want 🙂

Post # 8
204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Definitely do what you want to do ! I would only re-evaluate the things that really aren’t “you” anymore because you thought of them when you were 12. If those things are still what you want, then go for it and don’t think about whether they are silly.  Planning is supposed to be fun and I think being older makes it easier to have fun with it.  So, you should just do what makes you happy and excited about your day.

Post # 9
1038 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@HisNightOwl2014:  I’m sure you will have family and friends that are excited about your upcoming marriage as well. Think about it, they have been there through all your previous relationship ups and downs in your life  and likely can’t wait to celebrate your marriage 🙂



A good friend of mine(known her since I was 12) that lives a few states away told me via email the other day that she is so happy and excited for my wedding.  She said she actually gets teary when she thinks about it.  I got teary just reading the email, lol. 

Post # 10
394 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Definitely plan the wedding you want!  I’m 34, and also planning my first wedding.  I’m super excited; my roommate keeps asking what I’ll do when the wedding is over & I don’t have something big to keep planning for!  LOL.  Anyway, do what you want & enjoy it to the fullest!

Post # 11
220 posts
Helper bee

I’m 35 and my wedding pretty much took on a life of its on…dating had been a nightmare for me so i’m very happy that my FI and I foud our way back to each other ( we met in college) …Ive never dreamed of a big wedding but i’m having one because my FI wants one…

Sometimes I do find some things silly and I have a habit of being very independant and level headed but our families are excited so I find myself just sucking it up and gong with the flow which hasn’t been easy….but I remind myself that I deserve this after all this time so why not just enjoy it!!!

Do what ever things you like and enjoy it beause you deserve it too 🙂

Post # 12
3183 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@HisNightOwl2014:  Don’t feel silly!  Have whatever kind of wedding you want.  I was 30 at my wedding and felt that certain traditions weren’t for me. Tossing of the bouquet (almost every was already married or divorced), sparkly Cinderella dress, Dad walking me down the aisle, etc.  But that’s just personal preference, I honestly wouldn’t have gone for that stuff when I was 23 either!

I did have 6 bridesmaids and the rest of the full wedding she-bang. 

Here and here are my recaps if you want to see some pics!


Post # 13
219 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Garden outside our church

I’ll be 34 when we tie the knot. Frankly, if the families were more excited about it, we might have a bigger shindig, but as it stands now, we’re planning a very intimate affair and hoping that we’ll have a GREAT BIG celebration  (like we would have for the wedding if the families were more supportive) for the first child’s Baptism. Also, neither one of us likes being the center of attention, so the idea of being a traditional bride gives me the shivers (much better to pass the attention on to someone who has no choice and won’t remember…) Basically, the wedding we’re planning has nothing to do with our ages—you should celebrate however YOU see fit–it (hopefully) only happens once!

Post # 14
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I just got married (I am 34).  I had the wedding I wanted and I say do the same!  Our wedding was a blast!  About 1/2 of the guests were over 50 (family friends) and the rest were our age…and everyone had a great time dancing!  In fact – I think the nice thing about have an “older” crowd is that no one is young enough to be “self conscious” and even though we have friends and familes from very different circles, everyone was mature enough to enjoy everyone else’s company.  (Does that make sense, I hope so!)

From the start of the anniversary dance to the last dance of the evening, most of the guests stayed on the dance floor the entire night!  It was a great party, a wonderful day, and I would not have changed a thing!  I hope that you have the same kind of day!

Post # 15
2442 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m 30 and had a pretty traditional wedding, 100 guests, short ceremony, all the events (first dance, cake cutting, bouquet, garter, parent dances, etc).  I wore the big white ballgown and all my bridesmaids except 1 are in their 30’s as well and no one had a problem with me wanting all the things that go along with a wedding, like a bridal shower and awesome bachelorette party.

We had a photobooth

And I got my topsy turvy blue cake that everyone advised against but ended up being the thing most complimented at the wedding

Post # 16
4 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

@HisNightOwl2014:  Its nice to see that someone feels the same way, all my friends and family have been married for a long time this will be my 1st time getting engaged and 1st marriage. I also have kids from a previous relationship. At times I feel really silly, and think maybe we should just go to court house.

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