Post # 1
So I’ve had quite a few people compliment my engagement ring and most of the time they’ve asked me if I helped him pick it out. “No, he picked it out all on his own.” This actually happened at an event we were at last night. I mentioned it to Fiance and he asked, “Is that a common thing to do these days? For women to pick out their engagement rings?” I said, yeah, actually it is.
I’ve seen on the boards here, usually with polls, that it seems like a majority of women pick out, or give clues of some sort, to their future FI’s about what kind of engagement ring they’d like. I had an idea of what I would have liked, but it didn’t matter to me so much. But somehow Fiance picked out my perfect engagement ring. I also felt that if my Fiance was ready to marry me, he should know by that time what kind of jewelry I would like, or if not, he would right out ask me.
So, if you helped out your Fiance with the engagement ring, what was your reasoning behind it? Did he ask you to help him out or did you just take him ring shopping?
Post # 3
Fiance and I had glanced at rings once, realized we had pretty much opposite tastes, and I told him I wanted to have a large say in it. I expected we’d go ring shopping when he was ready and I’d give him my top choices and he’d go from there. But he wanted it to be a complete surprise proposal, so he proposed with a dime taped to a keyring and told me to go pick out a ring, whatever I want, and he would buy it for me. I got the exact ring I want and it’s grown on him too. I know that some women like the sentiment of having a ring their Fiance chose, and that’s fine, but my personal preference was to have my dream ring. And also, I knew Fiance wouldnt do as much research as I did- I know I got the best quality for a very low price and he probably would’ve only gone to one store.
Post # 4
I ended up picking out my ring. One time I mentioned to my DH after a day of shopping with my girlfriends, that we had stopped by at a jewelery store and tried on rings for fun. He asked me if I liked anything, and I told him I hadn’t. I always thought I wanted a round solitaire with a plain band, and told him that when I tired it on I hated how it looked on my finger/hand.
The next time we were at the mall, he made it a point to stop at a store to try on rings, because he admited that he would’ve bought me a round solidare/plain band. I ended up falling in love with 2 different rings, and 6 months later he proposed with one of them. I never expected that he would actually get one of those rings! I’m glad that he did this though because I wouldn’t have been happy with a ring that didn’t look right =)
Post # 5
My DH would’ve picked out a diamond for me–which I didn’t want as a center stone. We had the ring made, so I picked out the type of sapphire (the jeweler showed us sapphires in different shapes and sizes in my DH’s price range) and setting–but when he officially proposed, I didn’t even realize it was my ring.
We didn’t really talk about it–I think we were both on the same page as far as going together.
Post # 6
My fiance and I picked out a setting together. It worked out best for us, because I am picky. It’s not really a big deal, because the decision to get married is a joint one, not just his.
Post # 7
He bought the stone and chose a setting, but had it put in a temporary solitare setting. He told me which setting he picked out, but said I could pick out whatever I wanted. I ended up changing the setting. He had chosen based on what I told him, but once I tried it one I decided it wasnt for me.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
1. I think my hands are ugly, so I rarely wore rings because I didn’t like the way they looked on me.
2. Mr. LK has never purchased jewelry before and was not sure of himself.
3. Mr. LK is a very basic man. When we moved into our home, we decided to purchase furniture for our deck. Mr. LK wanted to purchase the most basic, hunter green plastic chairs. Maybe the table would match. Maybe it wouldn’t. That didn’t matter, as long as it was on a cheap clearance price. Did it meet our basic need? Yes. Was it attractive? No. Would I trust this mentality to select the jewelry that I will wear every day for the next 50+ years? Hell no.
4. I am an admitted control freak. When we are making that much of a financial commitment, i want a say in it.
Post # 9
I helped pick mine out, but only beacause Fiance asked me to do so. I don’t really wear jewelry, Fiance had no idea what I’d like (I had no idea what I’d like!), he had no idea of what he’d like and he’s only bought one piece of jewelry before. To him it was important for both of us to like this particular piece of jewelry so he made a few appointments to try things on so we could get ideas. We have the same taste so everything he liked on me I liked also. In the end, he took ideas of different rings and had a ring custom made (I didn’t know what the end result looked like until he proposed though!). So for us, it just worked out that way.
ETA: I just helped with the setting part, the center diamond we ended up with was a family stone his mother gave us.
Post # 10
My Fiance is the type who says whatever makes me happy makes him happy and he means it.
We had been talking about getting married for a while.
He bought the stone and told me to pick out what ever setting (within reason) That I wanted.
Honestly finding my ring was a better experiance than finding my dress. I never got that TV moment with my dress but my ring… OMG When I walked into the store I was so nervous, sweaty and shaking. My mouth was even dry and I couldn’t believe I was feeling that way. I tried on a few that I had seen on their website that I thought I liked but meh none of them did it for me…The I looked in the case and saw “the one” When I tried it on I teared up and had to keep myself from crying. I just knew it was the ring I wanted to wear forever.
Post # 11
I’m super picky about my jewelry (I make a lot of my own jewelry because of this) and DH is well aware of that fact. He also had no strong feelings one way or another about what kind of ring he envisioned getting for me, so he asked me to pretty much design exactly what I wanted, and then he had it made.
We both love the end result, and he’s just as proud of it as I am, if not more; he’s been known to grab my hand and show off the ring detail to friends who haven’t seen it up close before, lol.
Post # 12
Yes we went custom , and I am really picky …We looked and decided together… if I need to look at it for the rest of my life there is no room for error IMO 🙂
Post # 13
It just sort of happened for us. We walked into a jewelry store and I was looking at rings then a sales lady started helping us and they told my Fiance his credit was good enough for $5000 store card and he told me to pick out the ring that would most make me feel like a princess and he bought it with his new store card on the spot (we had been talking about getting married for a few months before this). He proposed a month later =)
Post # 14
Fiance asked me to give examples of what I like b/c he was nervous about buying something so expensive without knowing for sure that I would love it. He said if he picked it out on his own and found out I didn’t love it, he would be hurt, so he played it safe and asked what I liked. I didn’t give too much direction…and he by far exceeded my expectations. A happy medium, I think, is to give him an idea and let him pick the final product.
Post # 15
I ended up designing my own custom ring. I knew I would pick out my own ring because Fiance is plain Jane. He had previously said his mom has a solitaire so it must be “traditional.” Solitaires are not for me as I’m not traditional and wanted something that not everyone’s mom and grandma had back in the day. I would not have been happy, and I’m the one who has to wear it everyday. He was cool with it, just wanted me happy!
EDIT: We have the oppostie effect. Everyone always tells Fiance, “you did such a good job picking her ring out.” Then he blushes and says oh no she put it together herself!
Post # 16
He proposed without a ring. The only thing that had been holding him back from proposing was the fact that he hadn’t yet found a ring, and he just decided to do it without.
We went out after he proposed and chose one together.