(Closed) Women picking out their engagement rings

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 47
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Fiance knows that I am very particular. He had no clue about buying jewelry and asked me to help him out. When he told me what the budget was, I told him that I could get what I wanted for much less if he would let me research it. So he told me to. I enjoyed creating it with him.

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Post # 48
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Bee Keeper

He picked out the ring and had it custom made for me and I never laid eyes on it…. and it is perfect! He did such a great job!

Post # 49
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Your point about how if you’re ready to marry someone they should know what type of jewelry you like would be a good one, but a lot of women don’t wear much jewelry :).

I picked mine out with Darling Husband because I was afraid he wouldn’t do enough research and get ripped off, plus I’ve always loved looking at rings, so I couldn’t bear the thought of not ring shopping!

Post # 50
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

my BFF and I went looking at rings, then my Fiance consulted my BFF about what I want.  So it’s still sorta like he shopped without me, but he knew what I liked. 

Why we did that?  Because in the 10 years we’ve dated, I’ve learned his taste in jewelry is COMPLETELY different from mine…and I wanna love my ring when he gives it to me, and not have to go through the whole debacle of keeping a ring I won’t like or exchange it and get everyone’s feelings hurt lol.

Post # 51
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I don’t wear much jewelry, especially not rings (or anything even close to an e-ring) so I wouldn’t have expected him to know since…I didn’t even know. My “reasoning” I guess is that…I wanted to try on different styles, he said “Ok, let’s go do it” and well…that’s what we did. We had already talked about engagement, getting married, etc, since we’d been together so long and living together for a long time. I’m not a big “surprise” person, matter of fact I hate most surprise things, so that wasn’t important to me obviously.

Post # 52
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Worker bee

We at shopping together just so he could get an idea of what I liked. Well wouldn’t you know, I fell so in love with a set that he bought it right then and there! 

Post # 53
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Busy bee

I picked out my own because I NEVER wear jewelry. Strife would have had NO idea what I would have liked, because I wasn’t sure. Since I’m going to be wearing it for a long long time, it needed to be something I loved..

Post # 54
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I hardly ever wear jewelry, so it would be tough for him to know what I’d like by looking at it (or know my size).  He also wanted to make sure I’d get what I wanted since I’ll be wearing for the rest of my life.  🙂  If he picked it out I’m sure I would have liked it, but I do love my ring I helped create.

Post # 55
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@luvmyDwight:  Something similar happened to me.  lol  I felt like an idiot in the store, but I cried.  It was MY ring (well…my ring was an exact copy…but yeah).

My Darling Husband proposed without a ring because he thought that it would be fun to shop together.  I really didn’t know what I wanted (thought maybe a halo…possibly a gemstone) and had never tried on rings before.  I realised a couple of things on our first trip out: I don’t like halos on my hand, big stones look awful on me, and everything I thought I’d like, I didn’t.  

I’m SO glad that we went together because it really feels like OUR ring to me…as opposed to a gift that he got me, which works for us.  

Post # 56
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We spent a few weeks shopping for my ring together. If I’m going to wear it my whole life, I want to pick that bad boy out. My husband felt the same way, so it was perfect for us.

Post # 57
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Newbee

@Big Truck: I’m pretty low maintenance in terms of jewelry and makeup, meaning I hardly wear any of either. But when Fiance and I started looking into rings, I found out I had very specific tastes.

I am so there with you, low maintenance (in my camo t-shirt and jeans right now) I don’t wear any jewelry and barely any makeup only some foundation, mascara, little blush and lipgloss. but when me and my FH started ring shopping I found out that I’m really only drawn in by Princess cuts with side accents and perfer bridal sets. We are still in the searching process but thankfully he is always willing to look with me. I wanted to pick out mine because my tastes are so limited with designs that I didn’t want him going crazy thinking he got it wrong so we are picking together. Smile

Post # 58
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Well, I had been ring shopping since year 2 of 6 (before he proposed). I had over the years tried to give him some direction as to what I liked. Unfortunately, the longer he took to propose the pickier I got because I was learning more and more about jewelery. Like for example, I prefer the look of a princess cut but I wanted it to really sparkle and a round cut puts out the most sparkle. My Fiance and I are really opened with each other so every time I learn’t something new and interesting I’d tell him about it. What I didn’t realize was that I was putting a lot of pressure on him to get it ‘right’. So one day he asked me for pictures. I gave him pictures. Still he ended up proposing spontaneously with out a ring and suggested that we go together and pick something out. I took a few pictures with me to show the jeweler what I liked and he looked at them and put them aside. Then he asked me and my Fiance to pick the ones we liked out of the case. It was a really awesome experience that both my and my Fiance are glad we shared. We finally picked two rings (both picked by my FI) and got a ring designed. Then I mentioned that I would prefer this or that and the jeweler tweaked it just a little to make it the perfect ring! I absolutely love it! But I must say that experience with my Fiance was really amazing and something that I will charish for a long time. He also never expected that he would have enjoyed that as much as he did.

Post # 59
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I wanted him to do it on his own, after giving my input, of course, but I ended up shopping with him. I had told him months and months prior to the engagement what I liked and he did remember, plus I had pictures stashed in case he asked someone what my taste was, but he never needed them. I really wanted him to listen to what I like and go get it on his own but I ended up going with him after he asked me. It was actually ok though because I got what I wanted in the end! I picked a few settings and told him what cuts I like, he picked the final setting (my favorite) and the center stone. He did awesome!

Post # 60
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Fiance picked my ring out on his own because he didn’t want me to know he was even looking.

I don’t wear jewlery, and I’ve never really said much to him about it. I only told him one time in passing that I prefer white gold (didn’t think he was paying attention, but guess he was).

Everyone who knows him was shocked that he picked something so lovely, including his dad, who let his mom pick her own ring 29 years ago.

Post # 61
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We paid for it together, and it was important to Darling Husband that I have a ring we BOTH liked. He knew I didn’t want a diamond at all, so we had fun looking at different types of colored stones. We wanted to make the decision together instead of all the burden falling on him (or me). 

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