Post # 92
I gave suggestions, but he’ll be making the final decision (we’ve got everything kind of backwards, including a wedding date already identified–sister has a ridiculously restrictive schedule).
I almost never wear jewelery and have never worn rings at all (didn’t even want one), so I knew he would need some guidance. We went looking together and agreed on the general features we like based on how they look on my hand: solitaire, low-set, and yellow or rose gold. Within those parameters, I’m sure I’ll be thrilled with whatever he chooses. 🙂
@RayKay: I LOVE your first paragraph!
Post # 93
We designed my ring together after we couldn’t find anything we liked, AFTER he proposed.
I didn’t need one knee and a ring to know he was sincere about his proposal: it was stilll incredibly magical and I wouldn’t change it for anything.
Post # 95
I picked my ring out…why not? I have to weat it and look at it constantly. He initially wanted to go ring shopping together since he didn’t know much about engagement rings and didn’t care for solitaires (what I wanteed) and wanted to see if there was anything we both liked. I fell in love with a solitaire and he ended up liking it to…it wasn’t really planned that I would pick out my ring, but I’m glad it happened like that.
Post # 96
I had 0 input. We didn’t glance, discuss, anything….and I am SO happy! I absolutely know that I would have picked out something totally different and I LOVE the ring they (he and my son) picked out!
Post # 97
I picked mine out with him. Marriage isn’t really a one-way thing. Of course I want to be surprised, but we also have to be on the same page about getting married.
Post # 98
Honestly the point is picking out the ring doesnt mean the proposal doesnt have to be a surprise. Yeah sure you know what you are going to get but what you dont know is WHEN. WHEN is the major part of the surprise, IMO, not WHAT.
Post # 99
The man got me a lovely ring, but it’s really a wedding band. Desite what the lady at the store told him.
I was going to take my grandmother’s and reset for engagement, but that didn’t work out if you see my other posts…so my mom is pating for mine as a gift to us, and I’m picking it out.
I suppose this kind of makes sense-when they got married within 6 weeks of meeting, her parents bought her engagement ring too…
Post # 100
I picked out my own ring. DH proposed to me without a ring on Dec 26th 2010. He wasn’t even sure I’d say yes! We had only been dating a year, but it felt right. Two years later it still feels right!
Anyway, he basically gave me the reigns. He said, “YOU are the one that has to wear it and I want YOU to love it!”. He told me I could have whatever I wanted, but to be aware that we would have to wait for tax season, and if it was more than his taxes, I’d have to keep waiting. We are saving for a house, so I couldn’t justify a natural diamond. Just too expensive, and the more I read about things…the more I was considering something else. A friend of mine pointed me in the direction of a Moissanite, after my mother litterally had a tantrum over me wanting a colored gemstone.
He did of course, want to give his input–which I was completely fine with. He said whatever I picked, he did not like plain bands. It had to either have sidestones, or some detail in it. I agreed as I really love antique/vintage-esque settings. He also wanted whatever it was to be at least a half carat, but less than say…3 carats. I laughed! I told him I definitely wanted 1ct, I think he was relieved!!
It took me forever to pick out what I wanted, so I only just got mine this month!! He also likes it and is very happy I LOVE it 🙂
His proposal, for me was perfect. Not having a ring changed absolutely nothing. It was romantic, sweet, and it was perfect for us. My family and friends never thought we were “less” engageed because he didn’t propose with a ring.
Post # 101
I feel like it’s become more common because there are SO many options and everyone’s tastes are so different. I think its best to just point the Fiance in the right direction and let him make the final decision. Maybe take a look through a gallery online and point out what kinds of styles you like, y’know? I’d have him browse around
Post # 102
MrJ made the ultimate decision on the diamond, but we looked at them together for months before he picked one out. As far as the ring goes – he knew way ahead of time (we’ve been together for 5.5 years) that I’d have to pick it out. A proposal shouldn’t be a complete surprise, in my opinion. When and where and how, absolutely, but that he wants to marry you? No. We talked about it long before any ring shopping – I knew it was coming so why not let me pick out what I’M going to wear forever? I custom designed the setting, even though it’s “just” a diamond solitaire. We just couldn’t find what I wanted anywhere and he agreed that it had to be perfect. I knew he had the ring (I went to the jeweler to check it), but he still managed to surprise me when he proposed.
Post # 103
He asked me to go with him…. He wanted to know the style I liked and my size etc…. Then he picked the ring out himself…It was actually my favorite one that we looked at, but I didn’t tell him that! He did so well 🙂 It was the most expensive one so I didn’t want him to get it… He decided it was the best one and he wanted the best for me 🙂 So, I didn’t pick my ring, but I went shopping with him so he would know what I liked 🙂
Post # 104
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
It bothers me when people think my Fiance was incapable of picking out a ring or that he just didnt want to or wouldnt know what i wanted because he doesnt know me well enough..either way…
He and I ended up picking it out together for a few reasons. First he knows nothing about jewelry, he does not wear it and neither do I. Also, for that same reason, he would not have a clue what kind of taste in jewelry I would have. And lastly, i did not even know what taste I had since I had not ever really had to look at jewelry like this for myself. At first he wanted it to be really traditional when he does the choosing and I am surprised at his ring choice. Once he saw how many options there really were, and found out I did not want a diamond, he came to me and told me he wanted me to love my ring and with all the options he just was not sure which way to go with it. So we picked it out together. I think this choice is up to the couple. I don’t usually do things simply out of tradition, I do what feels right for us.
Post # 105
BF wanted me to have input, and I definitely at least wanted to be able to give him some guidelines about shapes and all that. In the end, we went together to shop, and it was SO much fun for both of us. I’ve never shopped for a diamond before, and that was an experience I’m glad I didn’t miss. So exciting! The final choice and purchasing the ring is all him, though!
Post # 105
- Wedding: November 2016 - Garden
The ring my Fiance picked out the first time was a princess cut solitaire. I didn’t like how it looked at all ( I was with him at the store) So he told me to pick it out myself. He was like ” I rather let you pick out something you like than get something you don’t like and pretend you like it or come back and get an “upgrade”
He did the right thing. I love my ring and I would have been miserable if he picked something so ugly haha. He knows how picky I am. It was hard for him to pick in the first place because I personally don’t like jewelry. Everything turned out great.
Besides he had his ex pick out her engagement ring. And she was the pickiest nasty little thang. Im picky but not that crazy…. She ended up on cheating on him poor thing. He was forced to be engaged with her because of her mom like nagging on him to. The marriage never took place and now its my turn to take over. 😀 oh yeah. So glad that horrible engagement with his ex didn’t last long. Now he’s all mine and he’s the most amazing dude ever!!!! His ex had her chance on having a great sweet most romantic guy ever and now I get to marry him yay me!
I thank God for this to take place. Dating him for two years is the best. Haven’t argued with him not once. We’re perfect for each other….