(Closed) Women who changed their name – what was your reason?

posted 4 years ago in Traditions
Post # 121
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I’m a feminist too! I believe nothing is inherently liberating. Change your name, don’t change your name. All that matters is that you feel comfortable with your choice. 

I’m personally changing my name when my fiance and I marry. I just think his last name flows better with mine and I have never been very fond of or attached to my maiden name. 

 

Post # 122
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Bumble bee

Being a feminist means respecting a woman’s choice. It doesn’t matter whether that’s go change names, hyphenate or keep maiden name. 

I changed mine because I was fed up with spelling mine out and companies misspelling rtc so when I call up customer service they tell me they don’t have a customer with my name (grr!). 

Darling Husband didn’t care either way. 

Post # 123
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227 posts
Helper bee

I changed my name when I was married the first time, mostly for professional reasons – I was going to work in the same field as my mum and as we have a very unusual surname (only 5k in the world), and my mum is well known in that field I wanted to control how I was perceived.

I kept it professionally for about 5 years after the divorce, but have since returned to my maiden name (I changed country and profession).

Post # 124
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367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I used my right to choose and chose to keep it.  After a 2 year discussion it was the best fit for me and my husband. 

He respected enough that he would have taken mine so I loved and respected him enough to take his. 

Tbh the final factor was I didn’t want him to lose his name as it suited him since we were kids and that meant something to me and he wanted us to have the same name. 

Just finished all my paperwork for it and I’m glad I’ve changed it,  tbh in everyday life it doesn’t really matter what your last name is. 

Post # 125
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I have been asked that vary question a lot myself since I just was engaged. Of course I am! I am proud to marry this man and it is odd when a married couple has two different last names. Maybe I am just traditional, but honestly a name does not change the person I am. It’s only a name. It really confuses me when I hear women that say they will loose who they are or that independent women keep their last name… please. I am very independent and have a career. A name does not define me or anyone else. 

Post # 126
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Feminism is a woman’s right to choose without feeling criticized or her decision scrutinized. I will be changing my last name when I get married in October. It is important to my fiance so I am more than happy to do so.

Post # 127
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

I changed my last name for two reasons:

It was almost FREAKISHLY important to my Darling Husband that I take his name.

I am estranged from my abusive parents, and hadn’t “associated” with my maiden name is years. I mean, it was LEGALLY my last name…but on all social media I used my middle name as my last name.

Post # 128
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I changed my name because mine is super common and boring. DH’s last name is unique and has an interesting history. Plus I share my first and middle name with my aunt and grandma so I’ve always felt more connection to my family through those names than my last name.

It was important to me that Darling Husband not care what I did though. Thankfully, he didn’t care at all if I took his name or changed mine. It would have really bothered me if it was super important to him and he pressured me about it.

Post # 129
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I don’t think it’s automatically sexist to take your husband’s last name, depending on the reasoning behind why you’re doing it. If you think about it, most women have their father’s last name, so how is it really more sexist to change your name to your husband’s, when the one you already have stems from the exact same tradition?

Post # 130
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Talus Rock Retreat

I’m taking the same name as my husband because I have the same last name as my father who I barely know….the last time I saw him I was 4 years old. I am the only one in my entire family with his last name (everyone else that I consider family has my mom’s maiden name). I have never felt like the rest of the family with having a different last name than anyone else. I am excited for my husband and I to be our own family and have the same last name. I feel like my last name will actually mean something now:)

Post # 131
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Helper bee

I am taking my husbands last name and I have a number of reasons why…I love him and am proud to be with him… My maiden name rhymes with a slang word for feces… And I’ve had issues with someone stalking me since 2012, so changing my name makes it that much harder to be found.

Post # 132
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Honestly if I had an easy last name I’d have kept mine, or we both would have added each other’s, but my last name is central European and complicated enough even my family said not to burden my husband with it just to not to feel like I’m succumbing to patriarchy. So yes I’m changing my last name because his is much simpler and common, and because my first name is unusual enough on its own. 

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