Post # 1
Ah what a predicament! So I went to a wedding fair and entered a few competitions. Turns out I won a $500 voucher for a woman that specializes in vintage dressmaking. Wedding dress prices amaze me so I bought a second hand dress for $150. Now that I have this I dont want to do with it.
a) use it towards my dream dress and keep the other for the reception
b) give it a work colleague that is getting married this year or
c) give to a flood affected bride to be from Bundaberg (I’m from Brisbane, Australia)
I know I want to give to someone that needs it but a few people have said I won it so it is mine. I don’t want to be selfish and pay it forward.
Any advice ladies?
Post # 3
I think Donating it would be great idea. Or maybe you can have a dress made for you, but not for the wedding perhaps. Just a really beautiful dress for special occassion, like your one year anniversary?
Post # 4
How much is a custom made dress from this lady? I find that some things are too good to be true and it’s likely that the custom dresses are so expensive $500 here or there won’t make much of a difference if you couldn’t afford it to begin with.. you know? I don’t want to rain on your parade, I know it’s exciting to win something, but thats just been my experience whenever you win a voucher for a large amount of money that is supposed to go towards something..
Post # 5
@Girasole: I like this idea a lot.
Post # 7
Yes donating it would be ideal but I’m finding it hard to give it to something not knowing people from Bundaberg. And as sad as it is to say, I don’t want it to go to a dishonest person that wants a cheaper dress. Using it towards a special dress isn’t a bad idea but my fiancé and I don’t go to fancy places often and I think it will gather dust.
The fine print has already been read. The voucher is for the labour of the dress so I will have to pay for fabric. I was already considering buying a second dress ( our day starts at 10am til after dinner) so $200 for material is reasonable but I still can’t shake that selfish feeling.
Post # 8
Maybe donate your second hand dress and get your dream dress made with the voucher? Win-win situation as you obviously thought it was beautiful enough to wear for your special day, so another bride in need will undoubtedly agree 🙂
Post # 9
@Rabbits87: My Fiance and I don’t go to fancy places either 🙂 Maybe just wear it around the house. I sometimes enjoy having a dinner at home and we dress up in nice clothes Just for fun. Just an Idea, but I really hope you find the solution that would make you happy!
Post # 10
Donating it is a wonderful idea, but if you were looking into a second dress already I don’t see why you shouldn’t keep it for yourself. It’s your wedding! It’s not selfish at all!
Post # 12
@Rabbits87: Shake that feeling and use the voucher. I’m living in Brisbane as well and know the prices of gowns here. Get the dream dress. Maybe donate the dress you already bought to a charity. but to be honest i don’t think you should have ANY guilt.
Post # 13
Thanks ladies for all your help. I offered the voucher to my friend but she didn’t want to take the chance of having my dream dress away from me. So I’m thanking my lucky stars that I have such a great friend and that I won the competition to start with. What goes around comes around. Now to get busy flicking through dresses again!