(Closed) Wonderful sister (vent)

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Have you tried talking to your sister about this? If not, maybe you can just tell her that you are excited that you both are going through wedding planning at the same time, but are worried that your weddings are begining to become too similar. Seeing as you will be having many of the same guests, explain that you want them to remember the weddings as their own, and as reflections of yourselves.

The damage that is done is done, but she may see this and change her mind seeing as purple and orchids were your original idea. If not, I would consider it water under the bridge and just keep an eye out. If she continues to do this, I would approach her and remind her of your talk.

 

Post # 4
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46612 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Don’t share any more details with her.

Post # 6
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2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@ticklemepink:  Phew! I’m glad you had a talk with her and are keeping your plans. It is all what you originally envisioned, investing creativity and money behind, so embrace it. Maybe she will have a similar this or that, but you can find ways to arrange things differently, accenting your decor and overall look as you like.

Don’t share any further details with her, though. She may not be doing it on purpose — perhaps she is subconsciously taking notes and then later when asked what she wants, your ideas are the ones that surface! — but nevertheless it seems she is prone to copying you. Favors, dress color, flowers, who knows what might be next! Eep! You are nearing your wedding date and so there would be less time to change things, emotions will be running higher, and you don’t want arguments to erupt that could have been easily prevented. Attribute it all to making things more of a surprise. Happy planning!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

I agree with other PPs, don’t tell your sister anything else.  She is probably not doing this maliciously.  But, when you’re planning a wedding and you hear a great idea, suddenly you HAVE to have it!  She probably had a certain idea for flowers, then you said you were having orchids and she thought, “Wow, I want orchids too!”  So, just don’t tell her anything else and she won’t have a chance to take your ideas.

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