- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
I am a fairly New Bee here, but this is the only site that I’m actually comfortable discussing my wedding planning, etc. on.
For 5 years I was a single mom, after going thru a HORRIBLE divorce where exH left for another woman & got her pregnant before even leaving. I ended up left with a ton of debt to pay off, plus had to try to support myself plus Dirty Delete, with only my paycheck & the TINY bit of child support I get since ex lost his job for having an affair while working….. Anyway, you get the point, it’s been many years of struggling, including having had to file bankruptcy.
This past summer I was finally able to purchase my own home. I met Fiance around the same time. We hit it off so well that we were engaged late Jan, and now he lives with me and we’re planning our Sept 18th wedding.
My issue is, I have been struggling for so long….and now that Fiance is living with me, and we share bills, we’re really doing well. My mortgage is very low because it’s such a small house, and I got the first-time homebuyer’s tax credit, which has basically left me debt free (finally!!!) and, even after savings each month, we have no struggles.
But, what makes me feel awkward is that Fiance buys me really nice stuff all of the time. He makes very good money as well, and he says that he feels like I suffered for so long that I deserve some spoiling. My ring is GORGEOUS, and way more than what I would have ever picked out alone. He got me an amazing Citizen watch for Valentine’s day, along with several other things. Last night he bought me diamond earrings for no real reason. And, he’s purchased several things for our house since moving in (new tv, few small pieces of furniture).
I guess I’m only concerned because I worry what people think, like how could I go from having nothing to having so much in about 6 months? And, I don’t want them to think that he’s just “buying my love” either. We have so much more than that, and we talk & communicate about this all of the time. But, his feelings are that I shouldn’t worry about what people think, that it’s none of their business….
Has anyone experienced anything similar to this? Am I being silly?