Post # 1
I have a feeling that my boyfriend is going to propose to me when we are in Mexico. it will be our 1 year anniversery. I am 25 and he is 32. I told him that I wont move in with anyone until we are married. He recently started talking about how he wanted to move accross the country with me, i told him that i would but that certain things needed to happen first and he said that he knew that. He constantly brings up us moving. I reminded him that certain things need to take place and he said he knew and i asked when do you want to plan on moving, he said 18 months(which makes me believe he would ask within 6 months) we leave for Cancun in 2 weeks.
Last weekend i told him that i dont want to discuss us moving anymore until we discuss the other items he said that he would love to talk about it. we just havent had the right moment yet i guess.
He doesnt know my ring size or what i want. All my friends think he is going to do it. We havent Actually really talked about mariage yet but its pretty implied.I feel like he is almost messing with me in a way. Also he has been a little weird about money lately. Which is very odd as well. He said he wanted to open a savings account for our move. There are too many small items that i have noticed to list but this is the just of it.
Let me know your thoughts. Did you have any idea he was going to propose?
I just think if he was going to do it Mexico would be the perfect time…
Post # 3
Hello, and welcome to the bee! 🙂
I was in your position in December: it was me and my guy’s 1 year anniversary…and he surprised me with a cruise! We had both been talking about getting engaged, so my family and friends…and even myself…thought for sure it would happen. It was perfect!
Unfortunately, I got my hopes up and when it didn’t happen, I cried after having way too many pina coladas. He told me he knew I was expecting it, but he just wasn’t ready yet, but that it would happen.
It didn’t happen, but it was still a great time! Try not to think about it. I know, it’s hard, but it’s best to focus on the vacation itself so you don’t get too disappointed! And now, my guy feels ready, has the ring, and is waiting for the perfect time to surprise me.
If it happens in Mexico, great! If not, at least you got to spend time with your man! If he’s not ready now, he might be ready in a few months: you just never know! 🙂
EDIT: I think it’s very important to have a serious conversation about marriage before you talk about getting engaged. Marriage is a big commitment and should be discussed openly, not implied! Maybe you should have a nice talk first and then go from there.
Post # 4
welcome- I wouldn’t get your hopes up about the vacation- he may not do it then- just stick to your principles and I hope he does it soon enough for you.
Post # 5
Try not to get your hopes up. My fiance was so set on surprising me that he purposely chose a random day, which resulted in my being disappointed after a lot of holidays and anniversaries. Just enjoy the vacation and don’t expect a proposal, the last thing you want is to ruin a great anniversary trip by being expectant the whole time, and then ending up crushed.
If you have discussed marriage and agree that it’s the next step for you, it will happen eventually! If you haven’t, well, you should probably have that serious conversation. Being surprised with an engagement ring isn’t really as romantic as the movies make it, especially if you’re not sure about how to answer!
Post # 6
@beachgirl5: Hey there. I agree with the PPs. Do not get your hopes, expect nothing but a good time in Mexico with your SO. If it happens, great! If not, then you will have not been expecting it so (hopefully) the diappointment will be minimal. Best of luck!
Post # 7
So we are leaving on Saturday! And we had the “talk” last weekend summed up pretty much we will be engaged within 4-6 months and then plan our wedding and move in together……Now I feel like it would be perfect timing for him to do it since we JUST had the talk he wouldnt think that im expecting it at all…he has no idea about what i am thinking in the slightest….but he doesnt know my ring size or anything……still unsure about if it will happen i have a good feeling but i am not letting it mess with my vacation i will be happy either way especially since i know its happening soon now! We will see!! Thanks!