- 6 years ago
This is my first post here, I had no idea that there was a term for women waiting on a proposal! I always said I will not be one of those woman, but I guess technically I am..haha
I am just wondering what some of you ladies may do in my position. Here goes my story..
My bf and I have been together for almost two years (our 2 yr dating anniversary is next month) and we see each other every day. Basically, it is like we’re living together but we still have our own condos. Currently we have a house that is being built and will be ready at the end of this year. We talk openly about the future and getting married. His comments are always “when we’re married” and he jokes that he is building me my “castle”. 🙂
I know marriage will happen but my dilemma is that I did tell him that I don’t think we should live together before being engaged and I am pretty sure he is keeping that in mind, but after thinking over it further, I decided that waiting until we are married is probably better.
I mentioned this once but I don’t know how seriously he took it. What I do know is that he thinks that when the house is built we will both move in.
I think he is under the impression that an engagement is good enough to move in together, so I am pretty sure he is planning on it before the house is done, but of course I could be wrong. He is very good at hiding surprises also!
The reason all of this is on my mind now is because when the house is built I know I really will want to move in, start decorating and all of that. We talk about that all of the time because we are both excited about it! I picked everything out in the building process and we go almost every weekend to home/furniture stores!
I am not like most women I guess, since I do not really think a wedding is necessary (gasp! I know!) I just prefer eloping with a nice party afterwards. 🙂 So it is really possible for us to be married before the end of the year, but I am just not sure if I should bring it up or not.
I do not want to be “one of those girls” that puts pressure on her bf for marriage.I am not that type, but I feel there is a deadline because of the house. I have thought that it’s possible he will propose before the house is done, since our anniversary is coming up, but I don’t know how to find out without making it obvious..lol
So maybe there is a way to bring these things up without making it look like I’m adding pressure? Or maybe a way to find out if he is planning something?
Are there many of you that did live together before marriage and how did it work out for you?
I’m not really sure that anyone can give advice, but if anything it feels good to type it out because I haven’t told anyone these things! Sorry if I rambled on!