(Closed) Wondering if I should do a “first look”, what were your opinions on it?

posted 7 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: Are you glad you did a first look?
    yes, best decision! : (19 votes)
    79 %
    eh, it was ok : (2 votes)
    8 %
    no, wish we would of waited for down the aisle : (3 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
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    5921 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I desperately wanted to do a first look, but my Darling Husband was against in.  He really wanted that special moment of seeing me for the first time to be walking down the aisle, so I let him have it.  It was special! I was a ball of nerves all day, and I really wish I could have had a few minutes with him before the ceremony, but oh well ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 4
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    3798 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I want that moment that we see each other to be when I come down the asile! That’s the one part of the ceremony I am excited for. I can’t imagine doing a first look, but that’s just my opinion!

    Post # 5
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    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I can’t give you advice becuase I haven’t done it yet, but Fiance and I are planning on doing this

    We are having a evening ceremony and reception, at the same place, and we don’t want to rush our photos. 

    Our plan is to get ready, first look in the afternoon, then hang around all day having fun, doing photos, eating a bit. then having our ceremony, and cut right to the reception after. 

    I figuered at least because ours is in the evening, I want to see my husband all day, not just at night time. But it is also becuase I hate going to weddings where there is that gap and there is nothing to do. We don’t want to rush our photos. 

    I wondered about the aisle thing too but I figured it will still be emotional and meaningful because you are still walking down the aisle, even though he has seen you. 

    Post # 6
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    1061 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    It was amazing!  We were really on the fence about it, but logistically it made the most sense for our wedding.  I am so glad we did it.  Our photographers said they have never met a couple who regretted first look.

    We actually had our family and bridal party there for the first look.  They were sort of off to side so you can’t see them in the photos.  We decided to make a game-time decision on whether we would have everyone there or not and that day, everything was going so well, we had them there.

    I found that having them all there, in combination with Darling Husband standing facing the door and me walking in towards him, made it feel a lot like the walk down the aisle, with the convenience of pictures first.

    Post # 8
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    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’ll be honest, I wasn’t convinced about the idea of a first look before the wedding.  The traditional side of me kind of wanted the first time Darling Husband saw me to be when I walked down the aisle.  But due to planning and coordinating of the day purposes, I decided it would be better to do a first look, even if it wasn’t necessaryily my first choice.

    Now, having done it, I am SO GLAD we did a first look.  I love our pictures from it and it was so nice to have so quality alone time with Darling Husband before the ceremony.  It was pretty much the only alone time we got all day so it was really special.  Despite having been hesitant about it at first, I’d definitely recommend a first look!

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    Post # 9
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    1061 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Oh and I found that I really enjoyed the ceremony and was really in the moment, knowing that the photos were behind us.  Walking down the aisle, I took it all in, looking around at all of our friends and family in addition to Darling Husband.

    But, I haven’t done it any other way, so who knows what the other way would be like!

    Post # 10
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    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Yeah, I like it becuase you get that couple minutes to yourself, and I think THAT is really emotional and meaningful, plus you get the pictures of that, his reaction and what not. And then it will still be awesome pics as you walk down the aisle becuase it is more than just seeing you for the first time, it symbolizes a whole nother can of beans

    Post # 11
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    7295 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    we did it and i am happy we did.  we decided to do it because our ceremony was at 4pm and dinner was at 5pm, so all pictures had to get done before the ceremony. Also, i didn’t want to wait until 4pm on our wedding day to be able to see my FI!  i can’t say it was the most special moment of the day like others have described first looks. i did cry, but i was crying periodically throughout the day after that.  What i CAN say is that in no way did it take away from the special-ness of walking down the aisle towards my Darling Husband.  that was as special and memorable as ever and i don’t think it mattered that we already saw each other. 

    ETA: even though i said it was the most special part of the day – that’s because it all happened so quick, it still was special AND we got awesome pictures from it.

    Post # 12
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    1425 posts
    Bumble bee

    We also had our ceremony and reception at the same venue, so decided on doing the majority of the pictures before-hand.  So glad we did it that way and wouldn’t change a thing!  I felt everything went much smoother and Darling Husband still had to hold back his tears during the ceremony, even though we had spent the whole day together.

    Post # 14
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    14657 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We did it and we’re happy with the decision.  It gave us a little more time to get a few more pictures.  We were going to do some immediate family ones but it was too chaotic and they were no where to be found, but we did do the wedding party ones.  I think it was pretty nice to get some pics out of the way while it was still calm before guest arrived.  It also didnt take away from the feeling of walking the isle. I still got the butterflies, my husband was still fighting back tears. 

    Post # 16
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    1252 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    He still gets to be surprised when he sees you for the first time, it’s just more private.  Our first look was the only thing that brought me to tears that day, and I’m glad the moment was more intimate.  So yes, I would say that it was really special, I think if all that happened in front of 100+ people I would have been less likely to let my emotions go.  Also, and most importantly, our ceremony was at 6 pm in November and it would have been dark out if we’d waited and we wanted outdoor daytime pictures.  Oh and we didn’t want to miss cocktail hour or stress out about rushing through all our photos in an hour.  We got a ton of awesome photos we would never have gotten if we’d tried to do them after sunset and in less than 45 minutes…

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