(Closed) wondering what to put on invites so no one shows up in costume

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

OMG I would never show up at a wedding in costume unless prompted to do so – even if it were on Halloween (wow what fun!). Just treat everything normally. Those that wonder will call and ask.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would never show up at a halloween wedding in a halloween costume unless it said specifically on the invitation that it was meant to be a costume party – even then I’d feel like an idiot.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

avoid the color scheme of black and orange on your invites 🙂 that is the first step!

(my real answer is that unless you write costumes on there, no one will wear one – no one wants to be that a$$hole wearing a bumblebee suit in a room full of tuxedos and gowns)

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yeah, I can’t imagine people would automatically assume it’s a costume party just because it’s on 10/31. I would never wear a costume to a 10/31 wedding unless it were explicitly specified that I should do so. At most, I’d wear a pin or a scarf in Halloween or fall theme, but even that…I don’t know. No one wants to be the only one in costume at a non-costume party.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I would stay away from any orange & black!

And do you have a wedding website? maybe put it on there!

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree with the PPs – no one will wear a costume so there is no need to put anything on the invites about it.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

Do you want people to dress up a little? Like a masquerade ball?

I agree with the PP’s that people wont automatically think an event on Halloween is a costume party, especially if it is a wedding.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Maybe just include a dress code either on your invitations or on your wedding website.  Say “cocktail attire” or “black tie optional” if that’s what you want.  Then people will understand to just dress like they normally do for a wedding, and not to wear a costume!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You really shouldn’t put anything and trust that adults will actually act like adults (hence dress like adults) at a social setting.  Unless your telling people it’s a Halloween wedding, I don’t see why people would show up in costumes? (If we’re going to go all Emily Post, the only time it’s really okay to write a dress code is if you say black-tie or black tie optional lol).  Good luck!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think your invites will set the mood. If they had a distinctly Halloween feel to them then I could see why you’d be worried but really I don’t think most people would even consider dressing up (in fact on Four Weddings a bride had a Halloween wedding and ASKED people to dress up but no one did). I think most people would avoid it because they’d be concerned they’d be the only one in costume.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

word of mouth—have your FMIL and mom spread the word

Post # 15
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Honey bee

Invites should never mention a dress code. Also, the bride and groom cannot dictate the attire without being rude. That said, word of mouth is the best route.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree with “Cocktail attire” or “Black Tie Optional”

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