Post # 1
I don’t know how to feel about this, and could use some advice. We haven’t told our families yet (and won’t until we get the ring 😉 ) so I have no one to talk to about this. We’ve been together for 10 years this year, and my dear boyfriend (fiancé?!) told me on Christmas that I could pick out a ring. Some people may see this as tacky, but I saw this as an act of love, because he knows I’m soooooooooooo picky, and would love to pick out my own ring.
Therein lies the problem. For a few years, I’ve had my heart set on a simple cushion cut ring with a halo, but he hates rings with halos. He says they “distract from the actual stone”. He showed me a few rings he would have picked, and they were definitely not my style. He’s told me to “pick whatever I want”, even if he doesn’t like it. That seems crazy to me, I want him to love it too, and everything it represents.
The way I see it, I have two options- – Pick the ring I love, and worry about his feelings about it forever, hope it grows on him – Pick a ring that I like, but is a bit closer to something he would like (and I may or may not grow to love it).
For reference, here’s the ring I want- http://www.moissaniteco.com/cushion-forever-brilliant-moissanite-scroll-halo-wedding-set-p-18560.html
And one he would have picked: http://www.moissaniteco.com/round-moissanite-sapphire-antique-engagement-ring-p-10154.html
Post # 2
He can’t have it both ways. He said for you to pick what you love, so pick what YOU love.
Post # 3
p1ally: Is there a third ring that yall can find that you both agree on? Maybe neither ring is for you!
I have a halo too which I love, but personally in this case, I like his choice better.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
leekissesme: This exactly. If he’s leaving the decision to you, get the ring you love.
Post # 5
p1ally: I would look for something that kind of combines what you two both love! Even though he said to pick what you love, I would consider his feelings as well.
Here are a few choices:
Post # 6
I’m not on the ring boards enough to know who has the kind of rings that I am going to try to describe, but I know that there are bees who have them.
I’ve seen some absolutely gorgeous rings that have halos, but the head of the ring is designed in such a way that the halo is much less prominent than the type that you have chosen. Perhaps your SO would warm up to that type of setting.
Post # 7
Definitely pick the ring you love, you are the one wearing it! None of us would want to drop money on an expensive gift that the receiver doesn’t love so why should engagement rings be any different?! My Fiance wasn’t a fan of the ring I picked but quickly changed his tune when he saw how much I loved it.
Congrats on your engagement!
Post # 8
p1ally: I compromised because my Darling Husband didn’t want a halo either and I resented him for months. I only recently got over it. Like, one month after being married I got over it.
Post # 9
I feel ya! Our 10 year is coming up in a few months and for my upgrade I want a solitaire. Darling Husband hates them lol thinks they are boring and cheap looking -_- He loves 3 stones, which are beautiful but just arent me. We went back and forth for awhile, tried to compromise on styles I liked but of course werent up to par with what he had in mind. So he finally was just like… get what you like. It was important for me to have him included, and have some input on the style for awhile but he insisted that it was more important for me to have the ring I love. So I am going with a solitaire. I told him for our 20th he can get me whatever he wants xD
Post # 10
Congratulations on your engagement! I think I understand how you’re feeling, it’s important for you that he likes the ring too. What about a solitaire cushion without the halo? Like this you have each of both worlds? In the other hand, it’s a bit contradictive to ask you to choose what you want specifically knowing how picky you’re, and not respecting the choice he gave you.
Moissaniteco has some cushion cut rings that have the halo like under the stone? Maybe is something in between both options? Like this one:
ETA: I should also add that I may be biased because I love single and double haloes, and at the end my Fiance loved my dream ring too.
Post # 11
As a huge halo fan, I would say go for it! He said pick the ring you want, nd you have to wear it forever. He can pick out the ring he wears forever. End of story. It’s a gift for you to show his intent to make you his wife. You should love it. He should love his ring.
Post # 12
I voted to pick the ring you love because you’re the one that is going to be wearing it. If you want to compromised you can look into suggestions made by PP like a smaller “bloom” style halo. http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bloomhalo-ring-w-guard-opinions-and-pics-please/
Post # 13
MrsLerca2be: I think the style you posted would be a perfect compromise.
Post # 14
You will wear the ring forever . Go with your heart and the ring you love. You can go with his style for the next jewellery he gifts you 😉
Post # 15
Nah. You’re wearing it, so it’s important that it’s your style. We each chose rings that the other person wasn’t crazy about, but they grew on us — and we each have something that’s really “our” own style.